Is anyone pro-sex?

Question

I feel that there is nothing wrong wtih sex. There are downsides that the uninformed and ignorant will encounter, but i think its completely a personal thing. Saying that teenagers shouldn't have sex doesn't accomplish anything.
Teaching them safe sex and what having sex does to a relationship will cause your child to make better choices.
I think people try to keep innocence alive for a lengthy delayed amount of time when the biggest part of a teenagers life is puberty and sex. At that age they are bound to become curious and do something about it. The cause of STDs and pregnancy is the fact that children are not being informed enough, parents talking to them about sex is a must.

Do you feel the same or not? Does your religion decide what you teach your children? Does watching your child become an adult influence how you feel/cause fear? Have you talked to your children about sex/will you?

Having safe sex doesn't involve have sex with a STD postive person, espeacially when birth control is not 100% effective. It does, however, mean you should be tested and so should your partner.

Answer 1

I am very open with my children about sex.. I give them masses of information regarding sex.. The consequences, ways to protect themselves against disease and unwanted pregnancy.. We talk about waiting until the right time for you (I.E. choose for yourself don't let someone pressure you into having sex when you are not ready)...

I have always had a very open communication with my children no subject is taboo... It took 19 years for any of my children to leave me speechless with a question.. I only remained speechless for a few minutes then recovered.. My daughter however love telling the story of making me speechless she sees it as a great accomplishment LOL... Her question was "When preforming oral sex should I swallow or spit?" the question came out of the blue so it threw me LOL... When I recovered my answer was "Neither, he should be wearing a condom."

I trust that I have raised my children to think for themselves rather than follow the crowd.. I am quite comfortable with the adults they are becoming... They are all 3 fantastic kids and will all be fantastic adults...

Addition: My oldest 2 (18b and 20g) are now in a competition to see if either of them can make me speechless again... Some of ther latest questions have been real doosies LOL

Answer 2

Love, sex and marriage are important subjects for me and something i have studied a lot since my divorce (1983). I have learned a lot that i didn't know and found out that a lot that i believed was wrong. I have always been "pro-sex." sex is a good thing and best in a committed relation. Sex education is very important for children and most adults need it. The person that engages in risky sex are the ones that have psychological problems. Even education is not going to help them since they know enough to prevent contracting a STD, HIV/AIDS or getting pregnant. Most always religion is part of their mental sickness that leads them to have risky sex. Guilt of having sex out of marriage comes from the religious doctrine and guilt is a driving force to keep people from behaving morally. a few months ago i seen a program on the U of M channel here in Ann Arbor, MI. A psychologist did a study and discovered thst guilt is antithetical to goo mental health. Surprise! I knew that when i was a child and Dr. Albert Ellis PhD. has wrote about that for years. Yet for this psychologist it is a new discovery. She is highly religious. No surprise there either. Dr. Ellis has wrote books on sex and hi latest is 'Sex without guilt in the 21 century" He wrote others called "Sex without guilt."

I see more open parent that understand that their children are going to have sex, often as the parent did, before marriage. some unfortunately go to far and are not being good parent in doing so. Remember parents are parents they are not their children's best friend. They are parent and the two are mutually exclusive.


Good luck

An Atheist

Answer 3

Sex.
That's One Thing.
1. Do you Know/ Are You Aware of your Anatomy ?
2. Your Menstrual Cycle.
3. A Sense of "good Hygiene"
4. Orgasm - can cross your Legs at your age With your pelvic Muscles and (+ sometimes, for "most" fantazise at the Same time), Squeeze your inner thighs, [Intermittently} And have an O. [If not "Practise"}
5. Your values.

6. What Someone Else May or may Not "Influence" You To Do.
7. How babies Are born Without Too Much 'fuss'.
If You Don't [K} That FACT: "Don't Trust" Either Your Parents Or Your Religion - At Least: "its exponents".
Edit Also For Next Speaker: "Need To Keep Safe"
The Innocence.
What Is A World To Be/become If IT Fails "ITS OWN" !

Answer 4

I am pro-sex, and so were my parents. I knew what was a bad touch and what was a good touch by the time I was 4. I firmly beleiev that the best protection is education. My parents were very open and honest. They told me what sex was, why people liked it, what was good about it and what was bad. They also explained to me that it was an adult behavior and that they would be more comfortable if I waited until I was at least 18 before actually having sex, and because their argument made sense, I did.
When I have kids, I intend to do the same thing. comprehensive education is the best protection.

Answer 5

There is no approach that will work 100% of the time. It's better to tell them what sex is, what safe sex is, and importantly, what it will do to a relationship. Emphasizing that, it is better to wait, but giving them the information they need if or when, they decide not to wait.

Thinking that telling kids "just say no" will work is naive, and, to be brutally honest, stupid. It's like wrapping a towel around your own head, and figuring, that since you can't see anyone, you're invisible.

But, assuming that giving the kids all the information they need to make a decision, that they will make a correct, or smart decision, is also equally naive.

Teen pregnancy and STD's will never be eliminated, all that can be hoped for is to contain the damage, and try to minimize it as much as possible.

Answer 6

All average, healthy people are pro sex, whether they admit it or not, whether they participate or not.

The worst thing a parent can do is allow a child to enter adolescence ignorant of the profound changes, urges, feelings, etc they are about to encounter. The more informed a person is, the better decisions they will make - ALWAYS!

You can still encourage your child to abstain, but it's best if they fully understand the consequences of sex. Keeping them in the dark in an attempt to control them will only result in stubborn defiance (fueled by hormones) and possibly unwanted problems like babies and diseases!

Answer 7

Bravo. i agree 100%. In this case ignorance is not bliss. Sex education is vital for youngsters. And it is not giving them permission to have sex. Kids are stubborn, and forbidden fruit is always sweeter. But if they are informed, they can make more responsible decisions.
I agree also that there is nothing wrong with sex. If you want to wait until you are married, go for it. But, that does not mean everyone else SHOULD have to, as well.
Sex is normal, and it is natural. Our bodies are physically designed by nature in order to enjoy it to the fullest degree.
And the religious groups should just mind their own business. Do in their home what they think is best, but don;t push your religious agenda onto the outside world. I am neither interested, or impressed by your ignorance as to your opinions on sex, inside of, or outside of marriage. And that covers your perview on Gays, as well.

Answer 8

The problem with religion is that it has carried on this idea that sadistic priests and church leaders should inform the children that being curious and playing with themselves is incorrect. That carries on with them through life, and translates a little differently whereas, it is incorrect for you to be having sex...despite the fact that it is a basic human NEED, and your biology is telling you to **** around because you are most fruitful at this age. And that is what the church is saying. In a completely logical train of thought, Sex is a biological need, have it, be safe if you don't want kids or STD's, and teach your kids the same, becuase you will just end up punishing them for something that doesn't involve logic.

Answer 9

I'm completely pro-sex, within the confines of marriage. God made sex for marriage, and He made it a good and wonderful thing which married couples should do early and often!

I also recognize the problem of sexual curiosity during the teens. This didn't used to be as much of a problem- only in the last few centuries has the avarage marriage age risen into the 20's and 30's, in later times people often married in the teens, thus decreasing (although admittedly not eliminating) the problem. Our society today would make a reversal of this trend very difficult, as far more maturity is required to survive in our world as an adult, and our younger teens have far less maturity and self-discipline in our era than in previous.

However, encouraging the non-married to experiment sexually is setting them up for a fall. It only feeds that afore mentioned lack of self control, cheapens sex, and ultimatly causes them not to put as much value on sex and marriage. Sex becomes a tool for ones own pleasure, and marriage becomes empty symbolism. This is part of the reason the divorce rate is so high and families are torn apart.

You are right. There is nothing wrong with sex, in and of itself. But it was meant for marriage, and misusing it, even though sex is a good thing, can produce bad results.

But I do agree that we need to teach our kids about sex, including protective sex practices, as well as the importance of saving yourself for marriage and the problems one exposes oneself to if you don't. I also agree that too often fear of seeing a child grow up can become a hinderance for a parent to prepair that child for growing up, producing (yet again) immature teens not prepaired to face the real world.

I also believe that too often the church is neurotic about sex, taking it beyond the Biblical teaching against adultery and fornication, into an unbiblical realm of sex being looked at as dirty or unnatural. God invented sex, He made it before the fall of man, and it was a good thing. Sex between spouses is a beauitiful thing (Hebrews 13:4). It should be encouraged. And strange teachings putting restrictions on marital sex, making it only about procreation, and lessening this wonderful invention of God should be refuted at every turn.

I hope and pray this helps you look at the issue from a little different angle, and perhaps even think a little differently. God bless!

Answer 10

Sex is a good thing! Someone once said there's no such thing as bad sex. That's pretty much true.

It is truly a shame that people are SCARED to talk to their kids about sex. We (boys) think about it very early in life. I learned about sex from friends and health class. In other words, the only facts I got was from health class, and that wasn't very informative.