I haven't been alone with him in a few years. I just happened to see him today and we talked for about an hour. He held my hand and told me that he missed me and thought about me often. Before we parted ways, he kissed me. It was one of those kisses you feel from head to toe. I love him more than I've ever loved anyone before. I miss him everyday. But, it seems that everytime something starts up again with us, it doesn't work out. I know I'm going to get sucked in again. It happens everytime. It's like I have an addiction when he's involved. How do I keep from getting my heart broken again?
2007-11-14 15:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've been in a similar situation-- we finally talked about it, and i told him that i loved him but i couldn't stand getting hurt again. he understood that we couldn't get into another relationship unless he could give me some kind of promise/reassurance that i wouldn't wind up broken hearted again---
try talking to him about it. if he acted that way, then obviously he has feelings towards you. if you care deeply enough about him and you feel that it's worth another shot, then explain that to him. otherwise, you're going to have to severe the ties and stay away to keep from getting broken hearted again. you might have to explain that to him too so he won't keep coming around.
2007-11-14 15:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he still feels that way and ask him about his life since the breakup.
I was in this situation months ago. Me and this girl were so hot for each other years ago. We had sporadic contact over a 3 and a half year period and then we connected again.
We did a test drive literally (sorry for the pun) and I realized that I CHANGED. She was really the same person and the guy she dated years ago had different likes and interests and priorities. We left it at that.
What you should do is see if he CHANGED his priorities. Maturity sometimes shows with age and he might have learned something from the previous situation.
And don't make those silly, "Don't break my heart again" rules. You are already backing him into a corner far before the 2nd relationship has started.
Why girls want to revisit old relationships is anybody's guess....
2007-11-14 23:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation and every time it happened it
cost me thousands and left me feeling worse. Don't
miss him every day. Spend your kisses on someone
who truly deserves you and feels them from head to toe.
Once you have your heart broken by someone can
you truly trust them with it? I don't think so. You'll always
wonder. Trust is crucial in a relationship and you deserve
to be treated as Numero Uno.
2007-11-14 23:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked this question a little while ago and maybe you didn't like the answers.
1. if you get involved you are definitely risking getting your heart broken. that's what involved means. taking that risk.
2. you can totally protect yourself from broken hearts by not getting involved. yes, you are in control of whether you get involved again or not.
your choice.
2007-11-14 23:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
several ways
everytime you think about him remember how much he hurt you. remember how you deserve someone who won't do that to you. and if sometimes you just thinking about him, associate him with genetal herpes or something you just didn't like about him. change his display name to "not worth it, been there done that, i deserve better than this ***". always think of yourself. put yourself first. you know you deserve someone who won't break your heart. he's not the one. he's just past. let it be past. plus keep in mind there's someone better than him out there. well i might even go and think that brad pitt is hotter than he will ever be! don't let him use you it's a one sided love and you deserve much better
2007-11-15 00:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read 'He's Just Not That Into You', by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
2007-11-14 23:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pretty shallow relationship. Tell yourself you deserve better and hold out for it.
2007-11-14 23:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Spy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Ride the rollercoaster till you find someone else.
2007-11-14 23:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep running!
2007-11-14 23:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋