i'm a girl, who is only 90 pounds and my little brother who is a lot larger than me, and about my height always starts crap with me and i call him "fat". after i call him that he punches, kicks, and whatever else that leaves bruises on me. my parents always think it's my fault because calling him fat gets him, but they don't give a damn about him hitting me. i hurt for hours because of what he does. what should i do?
2007-11-14 15:36:56 · 18 answers · asked by - 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't start it, he always does.
and even if i don't call him fat, he hurts me, like, i hate when people are close to me and i tell him to please move, he won't and i yell at him and he punches me.
i've talked to my parents and they dont do anything
2007-11-14 15:42:58 · update #1
ALSO
when i fight back i'm the one who gets in trouble because 'i'm older and he doesn't know any better'
2007-11-14 15:43:55 · update #2
he says that i have a big nose and i don't care, so why does he go all wild when i call him fat?
it doesn't hurt me.
he is the one that starts it, i don't think i am the one who should stop doing what i'm doing, i don't provoke him at all.
2007-11-14 15:58:06 · update #3
You start it and you want to know what you should do? You should keep your mouth shut and learn to be nice, otherwise, you get what you deserve.
2007-11-14 15:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always sorry to read about kids who are so badly parented that they end up combative and hostile like you two. I wish you had parents that would have trained you to be each other's best friends instead of worst enemies.
My brother and I were combative and hostile thanks to our very ignorant parents! I'd hope that you and your brother could somehow over come the rotten training you've had and learn to be loving and respectful with each other. Perhaps when you both get older and away from your unhelpful parents, you will find a way to love and respect each other the way it should have been all along.
There isn't much more I can say while you are still under the control of your extremely defective parents except that when you leave home, you will have a chance to re-train your self and maybe learn how to have love and respect in your own relationships.
sadly yours,
jim
2007-11-15 01:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set limits.
Tell him that the next time he hits you, you won't share (whatever) with him, or you won't want to be around him, or go places with him.
Make sure he knows that there are consequences, even if they only come from you because your parents don't think is such a big deal.
Say things like, "hey bro, I honestly don't want to sit next to you right now. In the past, you have hurt me and I am not going to take it anymore. So forget about me playing with you (or whatever)"
Reinforce when he does something nice to you by saying things like, "wow, that was so cool that you got me that (or whatever nice thing it was)"
When he gets attention (from you) for doing mean things, then he keeps being mean but if he gets your attention and appreciation when he does kind things, he'll do them more.
2007-11-14 23:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1: stop calling the boy fat. You're provoking him to hit u.
#2: he still needs to learn how to not hit people just because somebody says something like that, because there are people in the world that r way too cruel and do not care. U must talk to your parents about that part to teach how to react.
#3: if u ain't startin nuthin, and he goes punchin, slap his behind back! shood, ya'll siblings. that's what siblings do
2007-11-14 23:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Musically Inclined 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you don't always call him fat, all you had to do was call him it once. He will always remember that. Im sure that was very hurtful coming from his sister. Im sure he gets enough of that at school from others, but to have his sister say it to him has to be CRUSHING. You want to remedy this? You need to bond with brother. Sit him down and apologize to him and tell him your on his side. Be his advocate not his enemy. He needs more advocates on his side. You may be smaller then him but your older and you need to be the hero in this situation.
2007-11-14 23:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you provoke him. Leave him be, stop calling him fat. No wonder he is angry. If someone called me fat I would want to knock them senseless! It's cruel and a form of emotional abuse.
2007-11-14 23:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and let them know this is a serious issue for you. If they don't do anything, talk to your school counselor. You have a right not to be hit in your own home. . ..even if the abuser is your younger brother.
2007-11-14 23:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by rayed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't mind his craps and don't provoke him. Return all his violences with kindness. Pray hard it works believe me! Someday your parents and brother will realized their mistakes.
In the meantime, don't get closed to your brother to avoid physical harm. I will pray for your success in overcoming your problems.
2007-11-15 00:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first stop calling him fat... and if he still does that to you, then just give him a kick where it will hurt.
2007-11-14 23:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat him down once or twice that will make him think before he hits u , oh and stop calling him fat( it probably hurts him more than the beat downs he gives u)
2007-11-15 00:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't call him fat.
2. Fight back. When he hits you, sock him back.
2007-11-14 23:39:42 · answer #11 · answered by KungFu Ninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋