2007-11-14 15:22:18 · 30 answers · asked by ♥Ello♥Vee♥E♥ says Shut Up, Take Notes 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm really glad to see this question being asked. More and more inter-faith couples are sprouting and I think that awareness of this is good.
I'm in a relationship right now and my boyfriend and I have different beliefs. He considers himself a Christian while I'm not.
We don't have any problems with it. We've discussed things like marriage and child-rearing and we'll discuss them more often as time goes on. We've come to the conclusion that we can work through our spiritual and religious differences.
The only problem I see is that his parents are deeply rooted in their faith. His father is a preacher and obviously, his mother is a preacher's wife. I recently met his mother while she was visiting from another state. His father had to stay behind. Almost immediately upon being left alone with me, she began asking me questions about my church-going habits, etc. I tried not to let on that I took offense to what felt like a "grilling session" and her assumption that I'm a Christian.
As of yet, his parents do not know that I don't consider myself a Christian. I'm still not sure of how they'll accept hearing that. My boyfriend and I both know that at some point, they'll have to know. Besides that, I don't want to feel like I have something to hide from them. I want them to know me as a person and that's part of knowing me.
Sometimes, it difficult because I don't want to find myself becoming the girlfriend that his parents disapprove of simply because my religious views are different from theirs. I like them, they like me and I'd like it to stay that way.
2007-11-14 15:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would take a special relationship and openness to maintain a relationship with someone of a different faith. It would take a willingness to compromise. You are starting out with a difference. I think your life would go easier if you had like minds. The Bible says you should be equally yoked.
But you shouldn't should on people either.
It may be a learning experience for both of you.
You will have to decide if it is worth it.
I know a Jewish Doctor who married a Christian women and they had problems. The Jewish family disowned her and shunned him as well.
Rev. TomCat
2007-11-14 15:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have just dated a wonderful lass for the last nine months, though we have now said our goodbyes to each other and shall see no more of one another. I am an agnostic atheist, and she is a Lutheran. Our differing beliefs were a sometime source of conflict, but I feel that we largely managed to overcome our problems in this regard. I think it is entirely possible, and I should certainly try again if I met another such girl.
2007-11-14 15:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Stormguarde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its just a religious faith not a different god.I think it is possible but me personally I need a women who is a believer to.I actually have talked to an atheist who wife is a devoted christian that was crazy.But thats what we all need to be able to do witch is accept each others differences .
2007-11-15 02:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Grim Reaper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married someone of a different faith. We are now divorced. This was a very big issue because he wouldn't give me an inch for my own religion. The screwed up thing was, he would go against the teachings of his own religion.
2007-11-14 15:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No and let me tell you why. I don't want to go to church by myself sometimes; I'd like to go with someone I'm dating or who I might marry someday.
It may seem trivial to some but faith is important. That's why Jews date/marry Jews, Muslims date/marry Muslims, and Christians date/marry Christians.
It's the fellowship aspect. In the Bible, Christians are not to be "unequally yoked," meaning that they are not to date or marry non-believers. If you are dating or married to someone of your faith, then you have someone to lean on in times of crisis or to engage in fellowship, Bible study, etc.
2007-11-14 15:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got really involved with a muslim women in which just started out as a computer service call. We had so much in common but realized that our different faiths whould later intervine.
2007-11-14 22:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by scorpio9000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm an Atheist. My boyfriend is hardcore Pagan. We get along just fine. Our religious beliefs, or lack thereof don't get in the way because I respect his beliefs. However, I doubt I'd be able to date a Christian or a Jew or a Muslim, because the whole kill the infidel thinking bothers me.
2007-11-14 15:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could I be capable? Sure. Would I want to, no way!! It would be a hinderence on the marriage. It would be like hitching an ox beside a thorobred horse, while they both could go, the one would hinder the other.
2007-11-14 15:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by mark l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they were of the Christian Faith I could deal with it. Denominations are not as important to me as to some people. Now if they were Muslim or Hindu, I don't think that I could date them. Pagan and Atheists are out also. No Buddhists or Shinto believers allowed. No Tao or Wiccans. I guess you could say that I am going to reject all of the non Christians.
2007-11-14 15:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Future Citizen of Forvik 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋