I used to always cheat on my boyfriends, but with this one i've been faithful so far. i want to change the way i've been acting because i know that it hurts people, it's dishonest, and it's wrong. every time i ask someone about this they tell me that cheaters can't change. it's discouraging. it makes me feel like i should just give up dating so i won't mess up anyone else. what should i do?
2007-11-14 15:18:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have a tendency to cheat it is always going to be there. Scary, huh? Well here's a little secret...almost everybody has that tendency. Most people just don't act on it. You always have a choice. If your b/f is important to you, just make sure that you make the choice not to cheat when the opportunity arises. It is kind of like drugs or any other bad habit we humans get. If you don't want to do it, you simply choose not to do it. No BS, no excuses. You control you, period.
2007-11-14 15:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by t0talb1tch77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they've been watching too many talk shows and have heard the "once a cheater, always a cheater" line one time too many. People can change. Nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known to man, but people kick the habit everyday. If you are committed, you can change anything about yourself. You just have to put your mind to it and.. Just do it! OK I have used a lot of cliches in this response, but it's the truth. Committing to a life of aloneness definitely is not the answer, however. Good luck!
2007-11-14 23:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by DeAnna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well every person that has ever told you that... they are wrong. Cheaters can indeed change. I've tried it. I mean I kinda sorta cheated a few times too but look at me now... I'm not any more and I'm happy with that. I guess i felt bad at the same time
2007-11-14 23:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by 2qt4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
study and practice SELF-ESTEEM! This will teach you (if you want to learn) HOW - HOW- HOW to change the way you 've been PROGRAMMED to act. Cheaters and just about every other thing can CHANGE by learning simple/easy self-esteem techniques and systems - BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT TO CHANGE!!!
With high/healthy self-esteem, you will be less likely to mess up someone else and life will be a lot easier and happier for you and your friends.
good luck
jim
2007-11-14 23:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes some girls need a little more than what they have. I don't see an issue with it but then I guess i'm a different kind of guy. You should be dating a guy like me that wouldn't mind so much. It's possible you don't want to change do you?
2007-11-14 23:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give up dating! If you are able to do something that will prove to people that you are no longer a cheater. Their opinions should change about you.
Good Luck!
2007-11-14 23:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Annabelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hard for people that know of your reputation as a cheater to trust you. But if you remain faithful and prove your change to them then i dont see why you shouldnt get another chance.
2007-11-14 23:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Scherzi? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not hopeless...everyone can change and you already completed the first step by admitting to cheating and saying that you know it is wrong..dont give up on dating just find someone you really like so the urge to cheat wont be as strong
2007-11-14 23:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its awesome that you want to try, dont get discouraged by what you hear...just know that when a person gets cheated on by someone they love it is the wost feeling evey and you dont want to be the one who caused someone that much pain..good luck :)
2007-11-14 23:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by *_* Katerrr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it should be fun trying to see how long you can hold out before giving in to infidelity
You gotta be with someone, why not him?
2007-11-14 23:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by true_value5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋