He has 95% of the qualities I want in a man but...........?

Question

He asks 4 money too much!!

BACKGROUND INFO:
1. Me and Boyfriend have been together for 8 months
2. We’ll be engaged soon- married next year( He has
bought the ring and yes I have seen it ;-)
3. I make three times more than him……..
4. He asked me for money about 20 times- 10 of those
times were for necessary expenses which I have helped out but had to rough it a little without the money. The other 10 times were for unnecessary expenses like an I.POD, T.V. Clothes

Problem:
He feels there's nothing wrong with asking me for money..

and

I feel offended and irritated because he should be able to live off what he earns.

Please answer any one or all of the following:

How do I explain to my boyfriend that continually asking me for money and material things is offensive and irritating?

What's the difference between asking and begging?

Do you think there's something wrong with a guy that continually asks a woman for money?

Answer 1

I'd suggest that get out of this relationship. This will likely get worse.

Answer 2

First off, show him this questions.
Secondly, dump him and find a guy that appreciates you for YOU, not your money.

If you don't dump him, then LEARN TO SAY NO. You don't have to keep buying him stuff. If he gets angry, then you know EXACTLY why he's with you. You should start saving up for a house, retirement, etc. It's never too early.

You have the right to be "offended" by his asking for money if he does it all the time (looks like he does) and if he whines about it, holds it over your head, or withholds something (i.e. sex) when you refuse to give him money. It is YOUR money, you worked hard to earn it, and he needs to learn about life. don't make it too easy for him. he will never appreciate the stuff YOU bought him, like he would if he paid for it with his own hard-earned money.

Begging would be if he kept saying please, over and over, or whined and pouted until you gave in. That is the difference - asking is just ASKING - ONCE.

If he cannot afford his own living expenses now, it is bound to get worse. What are you going to do when you have to afford kids? YOU are going to be home for a couple of months, OFF WORK, and would he be able to support you? He doesn't really sound like a true "man," in that a MAN is one who is WILLING to work and support his family. Think REALLY REALLY HARD before you get married. I'd suggest some counseling, perhaps through your church.

Best of luck to you sweetie!!!!
xo
ymmf

Answer 3

He is a mooch. Dump his ***. I make more than my guy and in almost 4 years he has NEVER asked me for money. Don't let him make you think it is okay. It bothers YOU there for it is not ok and he is not respecting you. Big warning sighn pay attention!!!!! Money issues only get worse if you already have issues.