I wanted to pet a rabbit but it scratched me and I got really mad so I hit it. its the same with cats. or our cat will always want to eat but I'm too busy to give her any food. mom gives her food anyway. the cat isnt my pet but I could still give her some food and caress her but no I neglect the cat.
I just wanna know the answer if am I for kids or not cause otherwise I will go for a vasectomy. I cant find the reason why I'm like this. I'm so shy that you wouldnt believe but I dont know how can I do these things. someone told me that I might be depressed but how can depression causes me to be lazy and violent? I thought depressed people are suicidal. or is it because I never experienced love? I really dont know how it is to be in love.
people around you always tell you how it is to have kids, that you should have kids, but if I already treat badly with pets, then I dont wanna let kids to suffer too. I'm just staying away from pets now and I'm fine. I'm gonna do the same for kids.
2007-11-14 14:36:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
OK everyone, this guy is asking a serious question because he feels that he needs the help, so quit smacking him around!
First of all, I would not recommend a vasectomy at this point in your life. Use a condom if you have to have sex, which is safer from the STD standpoint anyway. If your main reason for getting a vasectomy is because you don't want to accidentally get someone pregnant, then you need to rethink the whole meaning of sex anyway.
Second, please talk to a professional who can help you figure out why you lash out at animals.
Third, try to find the right kind of love (not necessarily romantic) by getting yourself involved in something other than yourself. Volunteer to help out with Habitat for Humanity or some other reputable volunteer organization that doesn't involve kids for now. By giving love you will receive it from yourself (which is most important) and from others. It sounds like you are not happy with who you are and your self-esteem may be suffering. If you can learn to like yourself, it may help you a lot. Make yourself open to going to church as well. You might just find that you enjoy it and that it will benefit you.
Some day down the road you may still decide that kids aren't for you, but just wait out the vasectomy for a while. Try to figure out (with the help of others) why you are experiencing the feelings you are. When you do meet that special woman, you may just find yourself wanting to have a child with her that you can love. In the mean time, just focus on fixing yourself! Good luck and I hope the best for you.
2007-11-15 07:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyof2inFL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you, Mike? You do sound depressed. It also sound like you might have some anger issues. Consider talking to a parent or therapist about your concerns. There are programs and medications that can help you with your feelings. Meanwhile, it's probably not a bad idea to stay away from animals and children. I would advise that you wait on the vasectomy, though. Things change over time, and someday you may find that you want a family. Good luck.
2007-11-14 14:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is entirely possible to love animals and not children. My college room-mate is that way. He enlightened me to the fact that children are grossly overrated.
However it is likely that if you have not the patience for animals you will not have the patience for children.
Get a vasectomy. You don't need kids anyway. I just had my vasectomy, and I have no children. I am 25.
2007-11-15 00:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Your Brother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well first you need to take grammar lessons.
Secondly - STAY AWAY from all animals! You should NEVER for ANY reason strike an animal.
Third - Get a vasectomy NOW!! Do us all a favor.
You are not well, and should not be anywhere near animals or children.
You are DANGEROUS.
Perhaps you should seek professional help.
2007-11-14 14:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by mystique 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Suicidal feelings can be a symptom of depression, but you do NOT have to be suicidal to be clinically depressed.
Lack of empathy for animals does tend to translate as a starting point for behaviour towards humans, especially children, as well.
If you are concerned about your feelings, please talk to a doctor.
2007-11-14 14:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump right to that conclusion, but I would consult a psychologist and see if he/she sees and alarming trends that might point in the direction you've indicated.
www.nami.org can find a psychologist for you, and if you can't pay, they'll help you find a way for that, too.
TX Mom
2007-11-14 14:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋