Someone please help me??

Question

Im just hating my life more and more each day.I have a lil mentally chlg.bro who i have been taking care of all my life.And i already have his responsibility now i even have to do house work.My sis is 19 has her own life so she's always out and dont do anything in the house.Im already occupied with my bro and on top of that i have to look after the hous,i NEVER get time for myself.Not just that my life is really tough,i'v been going through depression.

Anyways,there's never a day when i dont cry or feel sad i may be lil happy this moment but then afterwards i always have to cry.It's like life punishes me whenever im trying to be happy.i pray every single day and have my faith in God but whenever i have to cry i always say that God why did you brought me in this world?Im sick of this.It's like life didnt even give me someone to talk to in times of need im VERY lonely and sometimes i feel like killing myself!!!!

My family dont understands me Whenever my mom cries cuz my bro is very violent and sometimes hits her when he's mad and when i try to takecare of him(or try to help my mom)she cusses me out and tells me to go away and that hurts me very bad.I have forgot how to smile i mean i have actually stoped smiling im always quiet.What did i do wrong that God cannot give me my happiness??

Answer 1

You have to be strong. It sounds like you have to be the strong ONE. If your mother has bruises, call the cops. I'm serious. Call the cops. At least that dysfunction will cease. You brother isn't someone the family needs right now.

As far as you are concerned, I would try as hard as I could to stop thinking that you are wasting your life. You clearly are not wasting your life. You are doing what you are supposed to be doing, and killing yourself is not what your family needs, they need strength.

Your happiness is not the goal, please understand that. My happiness hasn't visited me for a long time. Yet I can be content. That has been something that I had to learn over time.

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Answer 2

God loves you so much. I had a very hard childhood also, horrible abuse. I use to ask God also why I had to have such a bad life. I would cry all the time and was never happy. Because of the abuse I was unable to be around people for long because I did not trust anyone, so I was without friends most of the time. I went to chuch and I was around people, but no close friends. You have such a huge load to carry for being so young. Just remember that God knows what you are going through and can be your best friend. You have done nothing wrong, He will show you later why you were born into that family. You are going to have great compasssion and love for others. I know that those words probably do not make you feel better now though. Can you speak with your pastor, or counselor at school. You need to get some support from other adults. Your sister probably takes off because she needs to feel free from the situation also. It sounds like everyone is overwhelmed. You can write to me anytime. I will be praying for you too.

Answer 3

You didn't do anything wrong, sweetheart. Everybody has some kind of problem or will have some problem in life, but you've been put into the fire at a very young age. I have a younger child somewhat like your brother, so I'm not talking out of ignorance here, okay? Your family needs help, and there are lots of people whose job it is to help you. Pray for God to help you find those people and then start asking until you find somebody. Start with your pastor and your school counselor. Did you know the law requires children like your brother to get the help they need? But you've got to fight for it sometimes. Sometimes families are afraid to ask because they think they'll get in trouble. It sounds like ya'll are already in trouble and you are being sacrificed unfairly. Your life is just as important as your sister's or your poor brother's.
You're not alone. Look at all the people who answered who care about you. I bet you can email some of them and unload when you need to. I'd welcome hearing from you again.

Answer 4

I’m so sorry you’re going thru such depression. I would recommend you to seek professional help. On the other hand you might want to consider that the Almighty God can help you dissipate your affliction. Paul, the Apostle, wrote about the “…all-surpassing power … from God”, which can help you combat depression if you “cast your cares on God” and “... he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.” (2 Cor. 4:7; Psalm 55:22) Therefore, you should pray to the Almighty God and he will listen to you because “God's mighty hand…may lift you up in due time.” (1 Peter 5:6) In fact, the Bible encourages us to cast all [our] anxiety on him because he cares for [us]. (1 Peter 5:7) Yes, the Bible promises: “The peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7) However, even if you don’t feel better immediately, you can think about a beautiful promise for the near future that is also found in the Bible: “I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." So, as you can see, God will wipe all tears and give you happiness. Just remember: “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him”, because the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.” (James 1:12; Psalms 37:11)

Answer 5

I am sorry to read your sad story.Yes I think you have a mental illness because you are very busy with your houseworks .You can not rest for a while.You are tired everyday..You have a bad communication between you and your mom and you with your brother.Where is your father.?Why your sister does not want to helpyou in the houseworks?
You must improve your comminication among your mom and your brother and also your sister. .You talk to them heart by heart without bad emotion..You have the right to take a rest.You are a good daughter and would be a good wife too.
If you have a resting time I think you can go out for relaxation.
,and make more friends so you will feel lonely.Your mom should be the leader in the house.She should make a fair division of houseworks among you,your sister and your brother.Crying will not make a good solution for you.You must be happy to be the good daughter.of your mom.You are everything for her.You must be brave and smart for releasing your big burden.to other.Your responsibility is too big and too broad.You can not hope to die,because death is decided by God.Suicide is hated by God.Youmust thanks God that God gives you alive.You must smile.Smiling will make you happy and long life..You must tell the truth to your mom dear.I hope you will be better in a near future..You can ask for the help of your uncle or aunt as the brother and sister of your momor your grandparents if they are still alive..Maybe they have a great influence to your mom.

Answer 6

wow i hear you Sunshine and my heart goes out to you. it would be easy to say just hang in there and things will get better, but i know that will not help you. you need to find someone who can help you. i would suggest going to a church in your community. that's what the church is there for. ask to speak to the pastor or youth pastor.go if you can, to one of the larger church's in town because they will have the resources to help you. they may even be able to arrange help with your brother. everyone needs a break from such a responsibility as you have been put into. i don't know how old you are, but i'm sure a good church will have a group of people your age that you can make friends with and that will encourage you. try to get your mom to go too. it sounds like she is stress out also from this responsibility and a break would help her too. you will have to be strong and take the first step, but God will help you. if you can't find a good church call 1 800 afamily. they will be able to help you find one, and if you just want to talk they will do that to.you didn't do anything wrong, and God does want you to be happy. take the first step and God will help you the rest of the way.

Answer 7

You need a little buddy like a cat or a dog
Dolphin would be my choice but in the desert I have to settle for a cat.
Thank your lucky stars for pets


I really think what you are going through is maturing you in the ways of the world.
On the bright side> In the future, when you are on your own, you will have no problem taking care of yourself.
So you will be way ahead of others your age,in that area.
And you can focus on the things that bring you pleasure, like relationships and careers.
Taking care of yourself is not something many people learn at your age.

Answer 8

If I was you I would try moving out of your current house if you are old enough, it seems like that negative environment is causing your depression. If your too young to move try talking to the social worker at your school. If you don't want to talk to a social worker or are too scared you can email me, I don't have any training in that area but have some who can communicate with might help you a lot. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 9

1) At least one number is 0: any number times 0 is 0, but that number doesn't have to be 0, but it can be. 2) If one is 0, the other must be 0. If neither is 0, then it is a number and its negative: -1 and 1, -2 and 2, -3 and 3, and so on.

Answer 10

I feel that way a lot of times too. The only thing I can think to tell you is that we're not "HOME " yet. This life on earth is not supposed to be Heaven. I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I hope you find somebody...a family member...a guidance counselor at school..a minister etc. that you can talk to about this.