I go to youth group every wednesday and mom is always getting mad because our youth minister keeps us late but i can't help it. i'm the one who always gets blamed but i rlly don't see how this is my fault. she isn't even talking to me because i told her there is nothing i can do about it and theres no reason to get upset. do u agree w/ me?
2007-11-14 12:27:18 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was thinking about trying to call her but the only problem is my brother goes to church at the same time so it would be like her coming to get him, going home for 5 minutes and driving back.
2007-11-14 12:37:20 · update #1
yes i agree with you...If she had a problem she needs to talk to the minister...
2007-11-14 12:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest getting your Mum to talk with the Youth Group leader/s. That way she knows you are telling the truth, and she can put it to the ministers her concerns about when you come home later than expected.
Do you know why she's upset? It it dark when you are finished? Do you walk/ride home? If its late when you come home she might be worried that you've had an accident, or been attacked, or hurt, and these things prey on her mind until you are home safe. Then she gets upset that she was worried over nothing. Its because she cares for you that she worries about you. It might be a pain, but she is being a parent. I know, I am one too.
Is it possible to contact her when you are running late (phone call/text)? That might help put her mind at ease, and give you a bit of a break too.
2007-11-14 20:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First your mom should be glade that you go to church and are involved in something good.
Second I would tell the youth minister that your Mom is getting mad about you being late, and see what he can do to help her.
Third see if there is other kids in your youth group getting in trouble because of being home late. then have every one and there parents come together to talk about it. it is a school night after all, and some may have to get home to do homework or study before bed.
2007-11-14 20:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
I agree with you. But I also agree with your mom's concern. Remember, your mom would not have been mad if you don't mean anything to her. She's simply expressing her concern the wrong way, by being angry. Talk to her. Tell her how much you appreciate her concern. Believe me, a mother loves to hear an appreciative word or two. Then explain everything to her in a nice manner. Even if she's not talking to you, continue talking to her. Greet her when you come home. When you're late at youth groups, call her at home once in a while to ask "how she's doing". You have to understand that being a mom doesn't mean she doesn't have needs too. In time, she will soften up. But arguing with her will never do. You just have to soften her with love & kindness. This never fails. The only difference is when & how long.
2007-11-14 20:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is a youth group, I'll assume he is an adult, and his underlings are all children and the event is happening on a school night. His role is to insprire you to follow the teachings of the bible and show you how to carry out God's word in everyday life.
So why, pray tell, is he ignoring the 5th commandment of honoring your mother and father.
I'm going to have to side with your parents on this one because your youth minister should not be controverting your parents on this issue.
I'd love to side with you on this one...but you said your mom is ALWAYS getting mad, which suggests that he keeps repeating this problem and straining your parent's relationship with you and the church.
Talk to your youth minister about wrapping up a bit sooner to keep peace in the house and church.
2007-11-14 20:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by ironjag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you whole-heartedly dear. It is not you call as to how long the youth meetings last. Why don't your mother contact the youth minister and tell him her concerns? If you have no problem getting up on Thursday a.m. for school, there is no problem. If getting up the next a.m. is an issue, the youth pastor should be told to shorten his meetings. Maybe the senior pastor could speak with him. How long are the meetings anyway? I think you should be commended for going to youth group and your mother should be proud of you.
2007-11-14 20:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by conni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that your mother meet with the youth minister. You're only stuck in the middle, you shouldn't be blamed for it. Maybe the youth minister just needs to set different hours, or allow you to go when your mother arrives. At least yours picks you up. My mom used to forget me and I would be standing there after the school was closed up and all the teachers went home (I took art lessons at night).
2007-11-14 20:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the problem i had with my stepmom when i started working.at my first job i worked till nine and my dad would always have to stay later at work,and then we would have a 30 minute drive home.so my dad said i would have to change my hours to the daytime shifts (homeschooled thats why i can work during school hours).but my stepmom said no she doen't feel like driving out there three times a week to take me to work.so i ended up having to quiting that job after a month.i found another job within walking distance but the problem with that is they don't have any daytime shifts available only the 4-10 P.M. shifts.my stepmom got all mad at me when i was hired and said it was my fault that i work till ten at night.and for months i waited till i could get a daytime job which thank god i did because now she stops yelling at me for that.(though she is just a very rude,mean and cruel person and likes to b*tch about everything.even all my friends,managers,and coworkers think the same thing)
just for the note she even made my brother quit his first job after a few months because she was tired of having to get up in the morning,and again she didn' want us to work till ten.
so i am on your side not you mom's.she has no right to be yelling at you!if she is really man enough (or women whatever you prefer) then she should talk to the minister about the problem not you.
keep strong,and i hope the situation brightens.
-Blackhawk
2007-11-14 23:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by California resident 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you rely on the church to bring you home or are you close enough to walk?If you can walk,you can always watch your time and leave when your mom wants you to.If the church brings you home,then your mom needs to have a little more tolerance.Explain to her that you thought she would be more comfortable with you hanging out there instead of being on the streets.Also,if you have a cell phone,consider calling her right after the group lets out and telling her your on your way home.If you dont,maybe someone else does and will let you make that call.It will show her your being responsible,and maybe she will be more leinant.
2007-11-14 20:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to go to youth group to and they would always keep us late, the easy solution is to tell her to come a little later.
I also think if it's that important to your mom that she doesn't want to wait then you should just leave earlier, the minister will understand because it's suposed to get out earlier.
2007-11-14 20:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am sorry I do not agree. At the start of the meeting you should explain to your Minister that you have leave by a certain time due to your curfew. At that time, even if the meeting is not over you should quietly exit.
(I know that I am going to get some thumbs down on this one)
2007-11-14 20:31:05 · answer #11 · answered by She's Back 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋