Hi
my bf got arrested a few days ago and i feel really empty inside, i miss him so much! we live together so when i get out of work i go home and im alone! i feel extremely sad and wanna cry every moment of the day. My days drag!!!
Is there any advice anyone can give me as to how make my days go by fast till he gets out? and how to keep myself together?
f.y.i : i dont have family, so i cant go to "my family" and his family loves me but i dont want to be at their houses everyday, because even if i do that, i still have to come home at night and thats when it hits me the most!!!
his in jail for violating parole. we think he's gonna get about 6 months.
2007-11-14 11:56:24 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
what the f*ck are some of you talking about? you want to run your mouths like u know everything about everything. first of all i dont have low self esteem, where that came from, i dont know. and secong im not codependent. i take care of myself and alway have, since i was 15. im not even gonna waste my time explaining in detail my situation to those who havent been thru sh*t in life and just sit at home with nothing to worry about
2007-11-15 04:18:18 · update #1
Use the time to concentrate on yourself. Set goals for yourself everyday and get them done. When you are in a relationship w/ someone you plan everything in terms of "us" but when you are alone you allowed to think of only yourself. Sometimes being selfish allows you to make yourself better. And there is nothing you can really do for him at this point so you just need to use the time to find yourself. Lean on friends for help when you are lonely.
2007-11-14 12:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by smartass23 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's an *sshole behind every tree. If you desperately need to be with one so badly, you'll find another one. Leave this one in jail and move on to the next one.
Just let me ask you this: Do you women pick these stooges because you MUST have an *sshole in your life just to be happy? Is it because you want to be rebellious toward your parents? Is it because you find it "exciting?" What?
Because it certainly cannot be love. I just don't understand. Make me understand.
I'm not the touchy-feely kind who is going to console you for having low self-esteem, or being some kind of "co-dependent," whatever that psychobabble means. I'm just a nice guy who is now 38 and single, and who finally understands that if I had learned to be a d*ck in my teens or early 20s, I might be married by now.
2007-11-14 13:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Barry C may be coming on a little hard, i.e., he's not pulling any punches, but I'm afraid he's right my dear. You may be what they call codependent. In other words, your boyfriend is in prison now, but it's kind of like you're in prison without him. Do some soul searching and "to thine own-self be true."
2007-11-14 12:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should see a therapist to get over these issues. You might also want to consider why you are with a guy who is in and out of jail - is that the best thing for you?
You have 6 months to work on all this, take advantage of it!
2007-11-14 12:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Barry C 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Dump him. Go out and get another boyfriend right away to console yourself. Get one who doesn't go to jail.
2007-11-14 12:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hahahahahaah...sorry you just reminded me of an episode of cops.
2007-11-14 12:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋