my 14 yr old daughter has been kicked out for the rest of the year for skipping. can she goto school elsewher

Question

like I said, she is 14, 9th grade in Florida, and was kicked out for skipping. I recently signed documents at the school saying if she skipped again, she would be kicked out for the year. She was failing with a 20% average at the time. She ran away for 2 days, and was brought home by the cops. They say she needs bootcamp. Her father lives in another state. Can she attend school elsewhere? Does she need to be home schooled? Could I go to jail if she doesent attend some sort of school? I cant seem to control her. she does what she wants, when she wants. She drinks, has bad friends, smokes pot on occasion. She seems to need mens attention constantly. This has gone on for 2 years now. HELP

Answer 1

Yes she can apply to go to school some place else! You will have a difficult time getting her in another school because her reputation will follow her. You most likely will have to pay a admission fee.
It depends on where you live if you can be held responsible for her action. She needs counseling of some sort. She needs to be put on probation where she will have to account for her actions. You may have to take her to family court to get a judge to order some thing like this. You need to check this out with the court system. You may need to hire an attorney to protect yourself because at her age you can be held responsible for her action. :--#)

Answer 2

First of, she doesn't need to be going to school. Let me tell you something. When I was 12 I was like her.

I was running away, drinking, and I smoked pot a few times. I lost my virginity at 12 & I had horrible friends that led me on the wrong path. My mom put in the mental hospital 2 times. The 2nd time my doctor there told my mom to put me in long term residental. Well, she did. I was locked up for 6 months. Once I got out, I felt A LOT better. They helped me deal with my problems & get me back on the right track. Years down the road, I still thank my mom for putting me in there. If I was not put in there I'd probably have AIDS, be smoking pot & drinking & having my 3 kids in the other room. If I had continued the path I was on I may have even been dead.

You need to put your daughter in residental. Find one because if you don't, she'll get worse. And be on this path for the rest of her life. She'll be a low life with 4 kids & bumming money off of others. Please, she thinks she knows everything and shes an "adult." Trust me, thats what I thought.

She needs help. You are the only one who can. My father wasen't around either. Put her in residental.

Goodluck, hun. Stay strong!

Answer 3

#1. She can go to juvy if she gets caught outside of the house during school hours
#2. She can go to a private school, I would suggest something for troubled kids.
#3. Educate her on safe sex. This is the ONE thing you will not be able to control. Get her on the pill and tell her about condoms.
#4. I would suggest a counselor. Someone to talk to both of you alone and together
#5. If you find her father a compotent parent, you could send her there for awhile. Let her know you love her. If she is in another state, she will get away from the bad friends long enough to develop some standards.
As someone who has been through a very troubled teenage hood I WOULD NOT suggest sending her to reform school or boot camp. This will turn her from a rebellious little girl who likes to smoke pot to someone to someone who knows how to commit real crimes.

Answer 4

What you need to do, is take away cell, computer, tv, etc. Get her into a new school. Take away anything that will keep her intouch with those kids. Let those kids know if they come around your house you will call the police. She doesnt need a father, she needs a mother with a backbone. YOU ARE HER MOM, act like it!!!! None of this she does what she wants when, you give her that freedom. Set a curfew, and if she is not home by then call the police, go out and look for her, and if she is doing something wrong, do some sort of punishment. Show her who is boss, she is only 14. My mom would have beat my ass if I would have done that.

Answer 5

Wow, this situation sounds a bit out of control. I'm sorry your daughter is causing you such heartache. Whatever you're doing at home isn't working for your daughter. Maybe she needs counseling, maybe she needs bootcamp, maybe she needs a change of scenery. She does have to be in school. There are alternative schools that help teens that are struggling turn around. Call your former principal... s/he should help you look for options. Personally, I don't think homeschooling sounds like the best option because you don't seem able to control her. I'd suggest researching some alternative schools in your area, with her father, narrowing the possibilities to 2 or 3. Then talk with your daughter about which option would be best for her.

Good luck,
Catherine

Answer 6

I can tell you this,if you go and find her another school and they do let her in , she will start skipping again. There is a reason she is behaving badly. I would say that the best thing for her is a boot-camp of some sort. She has to realize that her actions do have consequences. As adults we know that if we don't pay our electric bill then it will be cut off. As a 14 yr. old she needs to learn some discipline if she is going to make it into adult society. She can't do whatever she chooses to do whenever she wants, it's unacceptable behavior and unfortunately she is going to have to live with the consequences for the rest of her life.

Answer 7

yes she can go to another school as your daughter has a right for a education, though it will not be easy on her sometimes a change of scenery can make a huge differences.
A fresh start = New beginnings.
no offends intended but obviously her behaviour has not improved over the last 2 years you might need to look into professional help with dealing with her rebellious behaviour, Sometimes we just need tough love.
If her father has been actively involved in her life to this point perhaps you both could work as a team to help your daughter whether that be him having her for a short time.
Only you would know if that would be in the best interest of your daughter if it could possibly improve things or make them worse.
I wish you all the best of luck, I always heard that the teenage years can be the hardest

Answer 8

Of course she needs a father. But just saying that doesn't actually help anything, you know?

I think something like 'bootcamp' or one of those wilderness experiences would be good for her. But is that possible? Do those things cost a lot?

Girls that age can be very difficult to deal with. You can't tell them anything, and there are all kinds of guys out there who will give her anything she wants. You really need to get here away from all that and into a place where she can reconnect with who she is as a person, someone who can value herself.

Answer 9

wow. sounds tough. I don't think you have the time and energy to home school her. Do you have relatives in a stable household that can take care of her and whip her into shape? She could enroll there.

You really might want to look into special programs, not necessarily boot camp, that will enroll her full time to get her back on track. Make sure you tell her that she's smart and too smart to f''' up her life. She needs to know that someone believes in her. Talk to the school counselors and ask if they can point in the right direction as to what resources might be available for her situation. Good luck!

Answer 10

The best thing to do, if you can, is homeschool, so she wont get pregnant, as you said with the needs of mens attention. You dont want your daughter to be called a whore, and he smoking and drinking constantly is illegal at the age of 14. She would need a therapist, or a doctor.

Answer 11

All the research shows that boot camps do little but make the kids angrier. Your school district cannot refuse to educate her at 14. You need a lawyer, and your child needs a therapist. See if there is a legal aid or advocacy agency that can help you. In the meantime, get her father more involved.