Is my ex gay or just not into me?

Question

was getting back with my ex from college.. before our sex was so great, he was always all over me.

after we broke up, we've stayed friends (7 years)and recently decided to get back togethter.

he paid for a romantic weekend for us last weekend for our first time.

had fun all day..every night wine and dine..only problem was THE SEX!!

1. first night, went down on him and after he came,.. he said he needed to rest for a minute bc i drained him. 30 minutes go by. i'm laying there in my lingerie, and NOTHING! so i complained. after he tried, i was like "i'm not in the mood anymore" but just playfully. he didn't even try again!!

2. next night we went out, had drinks, even went to the strip club. got back to the hotel.. i handed him baby oil to put on me, and he was like"what do you want me to do with this?" did it for 15 minutes and he didn't even have orgasm.. he says that happens sometimes when he drinks alot..

i'm still young, still look the same.. what's wrong?

don't be afaid to be honest. i need some opinons bc this is too embarrassing to talk about with my friends

Answer 1

Wow, you need better friends, also guys doing that ISN'T THE WOMANS FAULT!!! Damn you girls and your weak ego's, geeze everyone thinks everyone takes sex light? What the f...... ether way after 7 years you guys drift apart, you can't expect the sexuality to be RIGHT THERE. That aside, he could be going thru his own changes, at some point people DO grow up, and actually realize that sex isn't something you take lightly, and unfornutly f'in romance is taking love lightly, which can make some people uncomfrontalbe, me included. I have some issues around the same level, until I'm actually geniunly comfrontable with the individual. Not sure thou on some I would feel a little bit that their might be something wrong with him, but I understand man better becuase I'm one. I don't behave that badly with it, but I'm more honest, which would of been his only route to getting over this, lacking that he'd only get more insecure and less able to proform. Also age, health, and "maybe" a different sexual prefences is to blame.....