What do you do if you are 20 and have never dated? I feel clueless, and I'm worried I'll never date. I'm not the best looking and am worried that I wont be able to keep a girl impressed. What should I do?
2007-11-14 11:03:16 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll be amazed with what girls may like you for. Dont worry bout nothing. All girls like CONFIDENCE. Be confident in who you are thats all they need to see.
Girlfriends work out and they dont work out, the first one rarely ever works out. Trial and error. You gotta keep giving them runs til you find the one for you
2007-11-14 11:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by chig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about never having had dated before.
You're not alone. I personally know a few people who are in their 20s, 30's and 40's who have never dated due to parent rules or not meeting the right person yet. Plus, I was one of those people.
Believe in yourself and like yourself. Until you do, nobody can like you.
Looks and keeping a girl impressed has nothing to do with being successful. Being confident, being yourself, and concentrating on having fun are more important. With those things, the girl will be impressed. She will be impressed with you just being yourself.
Even if you do make mistakes (we all do while dating), chuck it up to experience and learn from it so you'll do better next time. You can't expect perfection because it does not exist.
I went through this myself. I didn't start really dating until I was in my mid-20's. Yes, I made mistakes. After I learned from what I told you above, and a lot of practice, plus meeting a few toads (did a lot of blind dating), I found my first fiance within three years.
2007-11-14 11:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone somewhere for everyone. Don't worry so much about what is on the outside. Concentrate on what is on the inside. Even people who have dated for years make mistakes so don't worry about that either. If the girl has to be continually impressed, she is not worthy. Find someone who is interested in the same things you are. Go to a club meeting with one of your interests. or check out other clubs or groups where you might meet someone. Don't worry, when you find someone you will know what to do.
2007-11-14 11:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Frosty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late. There is someone out there for you trust me. If you want to impress a girl just start talking to her, but not too fast. You can also compliment her. Girls like it when a guy has the courage to talk to her. If you work or go to school with someone special put yourself out there. By the way everyone makes mistakes no matter how long they have been dating. Hope you start dating.
2007-11-14 11:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by alex d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried, you just have to pluck up the confidence and ask the person you like out; looks doesn't matter to some people, just make sure you choose the right person. Just don't panic, even the people who have dated make mistakes. And don't try to hard to impress someone, some people can see right through you and trying to hard might make a fool of yourself. Just be yourself, if the girl likes you for who you are, that's how you should impress her. By being you.
2007-11-14 11:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Briggie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just start having female friends and talk to them and first get comfortable with women in general. Then start making conversation with women you find attractive. Don't worry about your looks because if a woman doesn't like you more for your personality than your looks, than she isn't the right one anyway. I think personality is the most important thing. Don't worry, about not dating before, it is never too late to start. Just be natural and you will be okay!
2007-11-14 11:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Jessica♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and be charming. Guys are considered "marketable" under an amazing array of "handicaps." You are just inexperienced but you can benefit from the experience of others. Women want someone who is attentive, listens, has interesting things to say and is willing to do some stuff with her. Women want someone who wants to spend time with them - maybe not every hour of the day, but time. They do not need to be called non-stop, but they do need to be kept in the loop. You can watch some chick flicks to see what girls like - it is not always the flashy guy, OK - it usually is not the flashy guy. In guy flicks the flashy guy gets the girl, in chick flicks, it is usually the nice guy, the sweet guy, the guy who is fun and respectful and interested. In your favor: the world is full of flashy jerks who treat women badly, and they still get dates, my friend. You are marketable - so get marketing. Be sure your clothes are clean and not tattered. Get your hair style updated - nothing weird, but something beyond what you wore in 8th grade. Look like an adult and act like one. Be mature and fun and upbeat and the kind of guy a girl wants to spend time with. It can take some time to get used to being this guy and you might want to try some hobbies or clubs or learn to cook (because you meet girls doing these things too). Take some ballroom dance classes! Those classes are short on guys and the girls in them will get to know you pretty well - you can even ask them their opinion of your new "look" and get their suggestions - some of them might have the kind of suggestions you are looking to get (wink, wink). Most girls are charmed by an inexperienced guy. If they seem unimpressed - read up on technique.
2007-11-14 11:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and I just started dating. It's not that bad, just be yourself. The worst thing you can do is try to be someone you're not. Some pple like to act like dating is a whole big game or something. It really isn't, just be yourself, be open and honest. Show off your sense of humor. Ask questions, talk about what you're interested in and what you wanna do with your life. Stuff like that. Keep it simple, and try not to worry or be too self-conscious.
2007-11-14 11:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
man I turn 20 in 2 months and I still have never had a girlfriend, never gone out on a date like to the movies with one, etc., I'm still a virgin(obviously), it's my second year in college man and I feel so pathetic because almost everyone starts dating in high school
2007-11-14 17:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by introvertedguy06 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl, age 20, and never had a real date. You're not alone. I have many friends who are the same way. Love will come to you when you least expect it...just dont go searching for it. You're still young!
2007-11-14 11:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by september 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋