Losing my health care support....?

Question

I am HIV positive,HepC positive,I suffer severe depression and migraines.In the past S weeks my cat of 16 yrs died in my arms,1 week later my friend from highschool overdosed on crack then my grand mother died.If thats not enough,I had to cancel some appts.! with my drug councellor and the other with my therapist.I also had to cancel with my therapist 1 week before cause I got the flu shot and got sooo sick.Anyways they both have accussed me of lying and being on drugs.I have to see these people cause I' m on probation.What do I do?I am not on drugs?Do I offer a blood test?This stress is bad for my health.Therapy is suppose to help?

Answer 1

Provide documentation that all these things happened. If you took your cat to anywhere for burial or cremation after he died, ask them for a letter. Get a copy of the newspaper obituary notice for your friend's and grandmother's deaths, or get documents from the funeral home that provided services. Go to the graveyards and take pictures of the headstones with your cellphone camera. As far as the flu shot, get a letter from the clinic you went to, or provide a copy of the receipt you used to pay for it. Offer to take a blood/pee test for drugs if your counselors think you were high. Hope things get better for you!

Answer 2

The offer of a blood, urine, or saliva test seems reasonable. For grief related depression, go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: (U.S.A.) 1800 445 4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email [e-mail] View http://www.counsellingforloss.com/article8.htm Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 Understand that there are often several stages of grief.
The stages are:

Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one and divorce. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two.

See http://www.amazon.com/ for books on the various stages. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside one day per month on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. If the depression continues, visit your doctor, and see depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris in section 2. Migraine is addressed on page 14, and stress on page 42, and see www.mercola.com TASKBAR on 'flu vaccinations.
Suggested Resources on Grief and Mourning

Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, http://www.boblivingstone.com/.

Livingstone, B. (Planned August, 2007). The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books.

Simon, S, & Drantell, J. J. (1998). A Music I No Longer Heard: The Early Death of a Parent, Simon and Schuster.

Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press.

James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins.

Worden, J. W. (2001). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Professional, Springer Publishing.

Answer 3

Our clinicians will usually require a UA test, also if it was positive and you were on parole you probably would be in Jail. All your prescriber would have to do is fill out a lab requisition to have a urine UA and tox screen done and they will have the results within a 1 or 2 weeks. Than they can tell if you have been clean.

Answer 4

offer them a blood test to prove you are telling the truth,
urine test, the last thing you need is stress.
best of luck and god bless.