My boyfriend lives in Florida, and I live in Illinois! I met him online and we were friends for quit some time! I split with my boyfriend, here in Illinois, that I had while online guy and I were just friends, then finally gave my online friend my number! We started talking and totally clicked right from the get-go! Now I feel like this person, who is miles and miles away, is the only person for me...and I would like to be with him forever! I think I found my soul mate and he's so far away! He's moving out here by me in June, which is a long time from now, but long enough to fully get to know each other emotionally without letting the physical part get in the way! My question to you all, is this crazy? Is it possible to have such strong feelings towards someone you never actually met face to face??? I just need some opinions....
Thanks guys!!!
2007-11-14 10:42:51 · 7 answers · asked by Tessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've never met face to face and have never been with someone in person you only know what they want you to know. You have feelings for the man on the telephone, who doesn't get gassy after eating, chews his nails, doesn't do dishes, stares at other women on the street, or drink too much. You don't know the real man. There's more to a face to face relationship than sex that you're missing out on.
2007-11-14 10:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think.. yes.. I've also met some ppl online to which I felt an innmediate "click", we talk for hours.. but that ain't guarantee of success when you actually SEE each other..
I remember this girl, we met online some years ago.. we talked for a long time on the phone, exchanged some pictures, everything was great. This girl was from another country though.. When I took a plane to see her, we met at a mall and we didn't speak a thing! it was like ice being between us.. Something was definetly not right.. We then split and never talked to each other again.
SO my friend... it's not always the same meeting someone online than later in person, you COULD get a total deception for it.. SO.. think about it.. go and visit him, i dunno, but moving? well.. that's kinda risky..
There are some things you just can't see online.. even if you exchange pics.
2007-11-14 18:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Krisztian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say. some people think that you cant generate feelings over msn or something like that but ive had crushes on people ive never met before. just be cautious it is comepletely different having a real relationsionship after and sometimes the people arent always who they seem to be but if he's moving out here it isnt really like its completely long distance... If you've been talking for awhile already and you clicked then having him move out near you will be awesome for your relationship. Like i said however, seeing each other and finally meeting is really going to be different. Don't rush into anything too physical when he gets here, but keep your communication strong and just be really open with each other. If youre both honest and trusting of each other, then theres nothing to lose.. if you feel liek he's the one then i wish you the best of luck. just remeber, sometimes its easier to date the closest thing to you. just because your dating, remeber he's miles away and he might think that because you've never met its okay to see other people. That would be my biggest fear but you seem pretty sure about this guy!
best of luck to you both :)
2007-11-15 21:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be afraid of saying a long distance relationship with someone you have never met may be hurtful to you. There is enough stress on relationships in general, but distance can really add strain. Then too, even though you all started out as friends, how do you know for sure that he isn't just saying what you want to hear? You can certainly give it a go, but just don't set yourself up to get hurt.
2007-11-14 18:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are make believing that you have such strong feelings. being in a relationship has two components...one is love, which can be easy to do, you can love anyone if you wanted to, but the other is putting up with each other's sh*t. being in a strictly online/phone relationship doesnt allow you to see how you both interact in real life situations. i'm not saying you couldnt potentially be perfect for each other, but its going to take some time actually spent together in person (not just one date) to really see if its lust or love. good luck =]
i'm from IL too!
2007-11-14 18:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by niugirl1114 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been in long distance relationships before.
actually i am currently in one. or was.......
me and my gf were really good friends and we met on myspace. i asked her out and she said yes.
she just moved closer to me, and now we are together.
i have to say that i am extremely happy.
she is the greatest thing to happen to me in a really long time.
i say go out with him, get to know him better. and when he finally does move closer to you, you will be as happy as i am.
hope things work out for you.
2007-11-14 18:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by aj9166 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh yes it sure is --- and at least you dont have oceans between you --- i met a lady online and she is about 16,000 km away --- we have yet to meet and i love her so much so without online we would never have met --- best wishes
2007-11-14 18:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋