broken heart?

Question

My boyfriend and I just ended our two year relationship. I didn't want to break up, but I had to let him go. Anyways...I'm having a lot of trouble shaking this off. I'm really hurt and am doing the best I can to keep him off my mind so I can move on. Does anybody have any suggestions or advice?

Answer 1

"Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again; skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts." -Anonymous

There's very little in life that hurts as much as a broken heart. I always wished there were a guide on dealing with the pain of having loved and lost. So I'm gonna make an attempt at such a guide. Based on my many days dealing with a broken heart in what I call "the pain chamber," I'd like to share some thoughts on what's gotten me through:

First, listen to some country music.

Second, try listening to some country music.

Third, did I say country music?

Country songs cover some powerful lessons and wise teachings on handling the dark side of love. Depending on the day or the moment, any of the following tips might help...

1. Keep in mind that a broken heart is part of being human

Be wary of the person who hasn't dealt with a broken heart. No matter how strong you might be, if you're open to love, you're automatically vulnerable to pain. So don't feel bad if you’re in the pain chamber. Know that it's very normal and very much a part of being human. In "God Only Knows," Cynthia Ford sings about the unbearable pain that no amount of strength can overcome. She learns it's faith, not strength, that can get you through:

Somebody tell me if there's

any other way

I tried prayin' for strength

But it never came

So I'm praying for faith

Cuz God only knows

How hard this is for me



2. Light the fire

When dealing with heartbreak, sometimes it helps to get a little fired up! You can spend a lot of time bummed out and weeping, but at a certain point, it might help to get off your ***. Go for a run, lift some weights, scream if you must. Think Rocky Balboa meets the Karate Kid. In other words, get pumped. Check out Dierks Bentley's song "Forget About You" for inspiration:

I heard that ol' Jones song just the other day

'Bout a man who took that ol' broken heart to his grave

But I'll be damned if a memory's gonna lay me down

I might be walkin' around with a head full of air

Actin' kinda crazy but I don't care

This heart's barely beating, but I'll still be above the ground

I'll forget about you!



3. Take solace in the fact that things have a way of working out

It's hard to understand the first time your heart is broken. But over time, you come to realize that there's a certain rhyme and reason to life. As Garth Brooks sings, you may just become grateful for your "Unanswered Prayers":

She was the one that I'd wanted for all time

And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine

And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then

I'd never ask for anything again

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers

Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs

That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care

Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers



4. Feel the pain

We can exhaust ourselves fighting the pain. Allowing yourself to feel the pain rather than resist it sometimes can be very healing.

Trying sitting with your ankles crossed in front you.


Let your palms face up to symbolize a state of surrender. Someone once said, "Keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world; it's the beginning of a new life."

Answer 2

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Answer 3

no suggestions here hon. my fiance just left me after 2 1/2 years, saying he had been hurt by me. he also said he knew he pushed me away and also said that he does not love me anymore and did not think he would ever be with me again. but then he said he missed me and only time will tell. i don't know what to say or think at this point. i am just following the advice of his mother. "Time will heal all wounds" and "Both of us need to mature and forgive."

Answer 4

The best advice i can give you is to focus on the good things and be positive. Stay around friends and family and always have someone to talk to!
Good luck

Answer 5

broken heart. boo hoo. time is the only thing that can heal, and a little prayer and your love for yourself. you have to be happy with yourself