Are you interested in dating girls that have never had sex before? I am in my late 20's and I want to hold out till I'm married. I'm not bothered by it, but when I meet guys, that sort of freaks them out. They don't seem to want to wait. Am I a lost cause or are their guys out there wanting girls like me?
Thanks for your help!
2007-11-14 10:16:20 · 30 answers · asked by Truffle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS... It's not a churchy thing either.
2007-11-14 11:56:03 · update #1
i love u.
2007-11-14 10:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by It's All About Tyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One night while making passionate face-to-face love (no cool whip and cheeze dip) we both started crying because we felt so close spiritually we simultaneously wished we were both each others first love. We both wished at that exact moment that no one else had ever touched us intimately. It happened without speaking, its not something we saw on tv or something a preacher said - it just happened. Something i'll never forget. There was a sense of gloom around the apartment for days after that. We talked about it and it seemed to lift us up to saying "i do" and for some reason (too many to go into here) we ended up saying goodbye some years later.
You're not likely to meet a guy who has remained chase and there is something to be said for being with someone who has experienced the powerful dynamics of love AND sex. Me personally would not want a virgin but i cant deny what happened. If you've made the decision to remain chase then stick with your decision. If i could personally rewind time i would definitely take the course you're taking and wait until i found "the one" at the same time how would you know you've found "the one" until you experience all of the things a marriage needs. And sex only carries you but so far, moral implications not withstanding. As you and your husband grow older sex will give way to a deep cherishing of each other and the whole virgin thing will seem like silly whimsy because it is. Its just a blood clot from a scientific perspective, it doesnt make marriages last, it doesnt bring happiness but there is an emotional and spiritual clean slate if two people 'jump the broom' at the same time into the marriage bed. There's no sexual or emotional baggage to carry around, there's no ex-this and ex-that, no children from previous entanglements. The benefits outweigh the alternative and there is something holy about it too. If i had the chance to do it all over again i would definitely wait. Gratuitous sex is over-rated.
2007-11-14 10:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by metalsoft@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care one way or the other. I've had lady friends that were virgin, to tell the truth that 1 fact will either have you running away for more fertile ground, or you can be friends. I f I'm looking for a sexual relationship that's what you look for. It doesn't make you many men friends, but you can tell the men that want a strictly sexual relationship. I had friends, women that i knew they were virgin for a reason, and you have to respect that. I've had some really good times and my mind shuts things off, but you can have a very friendly friend
2007-11-14 10:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an LDS guy.
The LDS Church believes in not having sex before marriage. It is one of the few religions that still treat fornication like a serious sin. Many others technically believe it's wrong, but pretty much just look the other way.
Visit www.lds.org
2007-11-14 10:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by atomzer0 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This lady talked to me about this issue and she said it is better to wait to have sex
You should have it with ur partner in marriage
Also if you don't want STD's make sure they are also a virgin
So don't worry there are a lot of guys doing the same thing u are doing to wau=it to have sex
2007-11-14 10:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by jbkk17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well and I am gurl but The bible says wait till your married I think your doing the right thing. forget any guy tha only wants to have sex that means there no good!
2007-11-14 10:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated and had premiered sex before i met my wife had some fantastic sex but never made love until i met my wife its different by the way where still marred after 23 years
2007-11-14 10:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what a guy wants out of a relationship. Sorry to say but most times because it's physical attraction, they expect sex not to be an issue. If they really, REALLy like you and would like to pursue it further....any guy will be willing to wait.
2007-11-14 10:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by skykop 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys like virgins, and I was one that thought it should be saved, but after growing older- I want a girl that knows what she is doing.
2007-11-14 10:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let other guys influence you...do what you feel is right. I am not a virgin but I do wish that I hadnt done it because it would have been special to share that with my wife one day and know that she is the only one.
Keep it up
2007-11-14 10:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that waiting for marriage is an out dated practice reserved for religious fanatics and stupid people. you spelled everything right in your question and used proper grammar, so i assume you are mormon. try taking your head out of your a** and grow up. the world is not revolved around sex, but you must understand that you are seriously limiting the chances of finding that special someone who is willing to commit to a virgin. what if you don't even like sex? then he will hate you. think about it.
2007-11-14 10:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by 011010 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋