I'm having trouble with an alcoholic?

Question

I have a family member who is an alcoholic. He keeps messing up and I don't know what to do.

I'm looking for good websites that can help.

I've tried the AA website but I can't seem to find the right place on the forum.

Any help would be extremely appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1: Thanks for the website.

Answer 2: You are spot on, we all feel hopeless because he wont admit it and ask for help. Same to number 3.

It's a complicated situation , but I dont't think the first link will help me talk it through with someone.

Any further help is appreciated. Thanks

Answer 1

Al Anon supports family of those with drink dependencies Have a look at this site. http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/


Edit:. There are meetings you can go to but you have to contact them first. good luck!

Answer 2

Julia M got it right first time. I am off it now for 8 years and it is down to the individual really I am afraid. I respect the AA and all in it but could not truly follow the steps,good luck.

Answer 3

I think that when you are dealing with an alcoholic the only person that can help them is the actual person themselves. If they don't want to stop drinking then whatever you do will make no difference they will lie about alcohol and hide it do anything and you will have nothing but heartache- but good luck in trying to help your family member

Answer 4

Susie X, Julia M and boodrow are all right. My husband is a recovering alcoholic, we went years fighting about it. He had to make the decision for himself. But the Al-anon does help you to learn more about living or dealing with alcoholics. Good luck and thank you for caring. Go to your local al-anon meetings, they will be there for you and help you in person.

Answer 5

this is a number for a rehab in chester called turning point, even if your mate aint ready they be willing t talk over wat you can do.there is sum great staff there som not so great. 01244314320. i spent 13 weeks there and ive been soba now over 18mnths. by the way wat part of britain you live, im a recovering alcholic, and was drinkin near on 450 units a week. also if u dont wish t call them you could always ring me and i could try advise you and maybe help. let me no. i giv u my e-mail address and from there i pass on my number. good luck alcholism is a hoorible illnes for every1 not just the drinker.

Answer 6

there are usually groups that deal with this sort of thing -
ALANON, and there's one for the families of Alcoholics,
check the telephone directory for the one that would be
appropriate. Or, your Pastor, or Priest might be able to
steer you in the right direction.
God bless you.

Answer 7

This is a tough situation...You know he's an alcoholic, but he really won't seek or accept any help until he knows he's an alcoholic.

Answer 8

i am sorry to hear about you situation there is a great web sit but thay are undergoing work it is not reopend but you can regerster so when thay are back up you will be notifed it is recoveryzone.com good luck

Answer 9

well my dad [late] was one, it killed him, mum and i tried all sorts did everything, but he is no longer here, today we remember him, and love him still, not alot you can do, it has got to be the person with this illness that wants to get re-habilitated, just be there for that person, but you have a life to live as well, so do your very best, that all us humans can do,

Answer 10

unless this person wants help and asks for it themselves ,nothing you try and do will have any lasting effect.i really hope something will happen to help you and your family ,but truthfully if they don't see it for themselves nothing will change...i feel for you and hope you don't give up on this person,you could be their life line..good luck.