we've been going out since december 15,2006. and i love him very much. but he cheated on me. i don't have the strength to let him go because i know that if i do break up with him, i'll end up regreting it.
2007-11-14 09:22:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships are very hard to deal with. Now, did he come clean and talk to you or did you find out another way??? If he came clean then maybe you two can talk it out and see if it was stress from being apart... or because he feels the need to move on. If you found out some other way... then he is keeping secrets and this is not good. Also... what sort of cheating did he do? Did he kiss someone and go on a date or did he have sex with her. This will also add to how bad his offence was. For me, I could never stay with someone who cheats on me. It took a long time (I had a cheater boyfriend) to realize that I deserve better than that and that I should not put up with it. I left him... and now I am a happily married woman.
This is a decision that you and only you can make. Follow your heart but dont find yourself blinded by love because this can lead to more heart ache and pain in the future. Good luck hun... if you need someone to talk to... you can always email me.
2007-11-14 09:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you what you want to hear and say that he is not cheating but I won't do that because, although denial can be a comfort zone, it does not set you free. Think logically a second: 1) Why would they say "I love you"? 2) Why are they flirting so often? 3) Why is he saying you will mess it up? Mess what up? If there is nothing going on between them what exactly can you mess up? If my male friends' gfs suspected me I would just reassure them nothing is going on and that is that. It would not mess up friendships with my male friends. 4) Contacting you more or less does not signify anything. If someone cheats, it does not necessarily mean they will contact you less. In fact, in some cases, the guilt will make them contact you more and be even sweeter. 5) No man would TELL you if they were cheating. Telling would mean he would lose having the best of both worlds. It looks like you know, deep down, that he is cheating but you are convincing yourself that he is not and, by writing this, you are seeking reassurance that he is not. Even though he has reassured you, your intuition is still telling you otherwise. The question is whether you are leaving him, forgiving him or getting to the bottom of it and then deciding. That is up to you but I can tell you from experience, that a relationship where you constantly wonder and are looking over your shoulder, is mental torture. You do not trust him or you would not have appealed to others for an opinion and advice. Trust, especially in a long-distance relationship, is a crucial factor.
2016-05-23 04:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by krystle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you regret breaking up with a cheater? The problem with people today is they are willing to put up with this type of behavior. It is disrespectful and shows a complete lack of character! Why would you regret kicking someone like that to the curb? Have more respect for yourself. Obviously he doesn't feel the same about you as you do about him or he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Besides you are in love with the guy you WISH he was, not the guy who cheats on you! Have faith the right guy for you is out there! Give yourself the opportunity to find him without tying yourself up in a long distance relationship with some faithless jerk.
2007-11-14 09:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by PRS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can do it once, he can do it again. Find somebody else who is worthy of your love, time and affection. Never settle for anything else. You owe that much to your self. Cheaters would always be cheaters, remember that.
My ex boyfriend cheated on me big time. It was also a long distance relationship but our relationship was already going strong for 4years. When I found out that he cheated on me I did not think twice to break it off with him. Did I regret it? No. I cried but I never regretted what I did because now I am happily married to a very good and faithful husband.
I hope this helps.
2007-11-14 09:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably cheat again,Maybe not if you guys make more of an effort.Like talk more,see each other as much as possible.Make a commitment.But it only works if you both agree.Long distance relationships are tough.Maybe take a break and see how things work out.Being hurt in this manor is not good at all.You need to be strong and let him go,In my opinion.What is that saying "If you love something let it go.If it comes back its yours"?
2007-11-14 09:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime its hard to let go of the one that you love, But you need to move on. You don't need that type of drama in your life. I'm sure there will be excuses as to why he did it, but.... if he truly loved you as you love he would not have cheated. You will probably hear " what was I suppose to do you are so far away" then what will you do pick up and move closer to him? I don't think so. If you start accepting this from him now he will continue to do things thinking that you will forgive him every time " because you love him". Move on and find someone who is deserving of YOU.
2007-11-14 09:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy didn't even respect you enough to be faithful to you. Respect yourself and move on. Don't keep in contact with him because it will make it harder for you to move on. Trust me, you'll meet someone better and you definitely WON'T regret it. In the long run, you'll look back on it and see it as one of the best decisions you've ever made. There are so many guys out there who will treat you better and love you even more. If this guy really loved and cared for you, he wouldn't have cheated.
2007-11-14 09:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by KBaylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the guy! he cheated. you shouldn't regret leaving a cheater. don't let him make you feel like it's your fault! it's not!!! 11 months seems like a long time but if you stay with him the rest of your relationship will be spent thinking if he's out there cheating again. trust me.. you need to find someone better becuz he is obviously not good enough for you
2007-11-14 09:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by RJG♥4ever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one: LEAVE HIM. In my experience a guy who cheats on you is not trustworthy at all and not worth your time. If you do break up with him it's his loss.
Plus long distance realtionships are hard to maintain in general with regards to trust. Impossible, no, difficult, yes.
Many guys (and girls) who cheated say they are sorry and make promises to change -- I've never seen one actually follow through. Once a cheater always a cheater...I'm cynical but in my experience it has always proven to be true. You deserve much better. Set your standards much higher than a guy who would be unfaithful to you.
2007-11-14 09:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can deal with it by dumping him. If he cheated once, he'll cheat on you again (most people who cheat once, do cheat again, no matter what they say; if not with you, he'll cheat with his next girlfriend). You sound young, and if that's the case-- trust me you'll meet other guys that live in your area where you'll be able to see them. Once you break up with him you'll regret it at first (most people do) but you'll move on and hopefully meet a MAN who you deserve.
2007-11-14 09:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋