Anyone feel this way?

Question

Back in the day, it was "children are to be seen not heard" and nowadays it is like the children feel like they are their parents peers. What gives? Is this a positive thing or a negative thing?

IF you have kids, do you fill either view point? Which one? Are you happy with that? Why or Why not? If not, how do you change the parent child dynamic?

Answer 1

Ya know, I haven't really seen any kids who really believe they're their parent's peers.
I think I'm happy with the way the situation between parents and their kids has been. I think it's a positive thing for sure.
And you hav to remember, back when those rules (i.e. children seen, not heard) were in effect, those were the days where beating your children, wife, etc. was competely fine. No one cared. But now, you have to remain a pretty good relationship with your kids in that regard.
I think parents should become more so their child's friend: if a kid can talk to their parent about things, it's a good time. If you have an extreme authority figure, there's no way two-directional comunication can go on.
But yes I do think that the kid-parent relationships are at an okay level.

Answer 2

I don't feel children should be seen and not heard, however WE ARE IN NO WAY OUR CHILD'S PEERS. We are an old school family (Dad works, mom stays home, we still spank, and our children do as they are told). For us it works - When people talk about the manners of the old days. Our family strives to create well mannered, moral, respecting young adults. So far it's working VERY well.

Answer 3

I noticed some children are telling their parents and teachers what to do. There's nothing wrong with a little independence but there has to be boundaries set. They have too much say and little respect. I let my child know that I'm the parent and it's not all in what you say, but the tone you use and how you say it & when he gets out of line I correct him. . . always.