ever since you can tell i'm pregnant, my husband wont have sex with me b/c he says he doesnt want to hurt the baby?? and i've been begging for it!!! but today he asked me and i couldnt stand the thought of him touching me, or looking at me. what is wrong with me???
2007-11-14 09:21:28 · 40 answers · asked by Marcie B 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i'm 36 weeks pregnant
2007-11-14 09:26:15 · update #1
watch the movie knocked up...yes its a comedy but i'm sure you can relate to it, theres a scene exactly like that. its normal for both of you to feel this way, and things should go back to normal once you have the baby
2007-11-14 09:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by prplfae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't tell if he's just really protective about you and your baby. only you can have the sense for it.
maybe he wasn't just in the mood when you were asking, or you were on the wrong time... probable reason: tired or feeling low. seduce him before you ask. watch shows that would stimulate and would drive him to be so crazy over you for it. no matter how short you too have been married, the fact that you are already married with him, he's expected to do what he has to do. i didn't mean him to be that aggressive unto u for sex, however, typical men sometimes are more aggressive than women when it comes to this.
what you're undergoing is a part of your mood swings due to pregnancy. that you sometimes like to, but when he's about to do it, you halt and has no feeling to do so at all. well, you girl has to close your eyes and let him do what he wants as ur husband and do your responsibility as wife in bed to keep the "music" run smoothly and pretend that you like what he does, to make him finish quickly.
then when he's done, ask him why he somewhat dislike it when you were the one asking and know his reasons. and from it you'll get your answers and live harmoniously... good luck!
2007-11-14 09:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by crisch 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think both of you are feeling "normal". This is probably hubby's first baby right? It is usual for a guy to be afraid to hurt the baby at first. Trust me a pregnant lady is the most beautiful lady in the world. Go ahead and get excited and enjoy it together. Don't let something small at first grow to a big issue OK? Good luck!
2007-11-14 09:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ken W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it quite is a some distance larger difficulty than you and your vagina, there are some quite deep rooted ideals and subject concerns that have lead him as much as now. each and every now and then being a Christian human beings think of this suggests that we ought to continually no longer have an excellent intercourse existence etc, that's a entire lie. i might advise YOU choose for counseling and the counselor would be waiting which will assist you out, and then according to threat provide you advise on a thank you to help your hubby via you. we are quite all only ever to blame for ourselves. additionally i understand you're only attempting to understand what the concern is with him, and attempting to help, yet asking issues like are you gay or have been you abused as a baby, are actually not questions that are going to steer him to sense like he's thoroughly frequent for who he's, and are going to make him sense completely insufficient as a guy and as a individual, and could in reality only worsen the situation.
2016-10-16 13:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by gilboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones
2007-11-14 09:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Poppy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are raging and you are being overly sensitive...some men think they will hurt the baby by having sex, but if lovemaking is gentle and the pregnancy is normal, there shouldn't be a problem.
If you are going through second trimester hornies, and he doesn't want to touch you...you could always take care of yourself.
2007-11-14 09:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't think your body is gross just because he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. that is very normal for guys, for some reason they usually get freaked out about hurting the baby. i don't know why you are freaked out about your own husband touching you or looking at you, i think you just over thought the whole "hurting the baby" thing. i wouldn't worry about it.
2007-11-14 09:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, some men are like that, others enjoy the high sex drive that you have. I guess that your hubby isnt one of the many who enjoy the sex. I'm sorry that he is like that but you didnt do anything wrong, it is in his head that he will hurt the baby, trust me he wont!
2007-11-14 09:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why men are like that. Tell him you have needs and that you'll call the shots. If it doesnt hurt your it wont hurt the baby.
Sex is great for baby, he/she gets to share your endorphins, he/she gets rocked to sleep by the motion, the increase in heart rate brings a greater flow of oxygen... over all its a great experience for all of you.
My husband was the same way, but trust me, if you get him naked, and smash your naked body on him, he'll get over it.
2007-11-14 09:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh there is nothing wrong with you...
Im sure you are beautiful even though you are pregnant...
Well,im not married but i dont believe your husband thinks you are gross...
He probably doesnt want to harm the baby or maybe he's stressed about something...
I wouldnt worry about it really,but i would ask him what he though about it all...
Good luck...
Cheers :D
2007-11-14 09:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by *Brooke* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋