Should he make the sacrifice?

Question

It’s along distance relationship of 5 months. I’ve visited him loads but he’s only visited me twice, because he plays & watches football on wknds.I didn’t mind at first,but am now tired of travelling all the time,waiting in his house while he plays football,&also wknds is the only time I get to see my friends here so have been missing out.I explained this to him,&he said that he loves football,has season ticket&doesn’t want to let his team down which I understand.But he was the one who suggested this relationship,&to make it work both people need to compromise and make sacrifices,right?He said he wants both (me&football)& I said,well I only mean like one wknd every few weeks you could come see instead of football.He said if I wanted him to do more I should say and he would.But I felt guilty.I really want him to come see me this wknd as have been havin a hard time, he knows this,but is still waiting on whether or not he has a game to play on Sunday.

His toe is broken too,but he wants to see what the doc says.If doc says he cant play,he’ll come see me.I feel crappy about it,but don’t know if it’s right to ask him seriously, please come it means a lot to me.What should I do?

Answer 1

If your purpose in life is to love this man, then just deal with it. It isn't fair, but living your life for just one person is going to make life unfair, so its your choice. You live with the consequence. Yes comprimise is part of a relationship, but lets face it, people are selfish, you've lived long enough to see this, so realize that when messing with individuals that have no higher purpose then football and getting a girl friend who understands she'll always be sec best, that your never going to get more then that. This is in all actuality your fault for picking someone who doesn't share the same purpose in the relationship as you. You can't change it, without changing him, and THATS even more unfair. So its not his fault you sold yourself short because you thought love would make everything right. So your choice, if you think you need more in a relationship and he can't give it to you, get the f out. If this is what you want to deal with, keep it up, theres going to more short-changing you to come, which apparently you belive is just fine.....