I'm a single woman who is in her mid 40s but who is frequently invited on dates by guys who are in their 20s. This is such a compliment as they usually guess that I'm around 30. I have a problem in that I'm often attracted to them too. The only thing is, my judgement tells me that they are only out for the sexual experience and once they ask me my age, I often loose confidence. I have this idea, even though it seems a bit prejudiced, that younger guys will want to meet 'the mother of thier children' in the woman of their life. Men out there, please talk to me and advise me on this one. Are you all (when in your 20's) interested in the sexual experience when you want to date an older woman or can it really be a stable, long term, real love relationship. Because, this is what I want. (I've never been married and have no kids).
2007-11-14 08:49:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 30 years old. I got married when I was 27 (met my wife at age 26).
I have dated both older women and younger women. I never dated one 10 years older, but it wasn't for lack of wanting to. I actually did have a date set with a woman 10 years older, but we ended up cancelling due family commitments on her end. We never rescheduled because I met someone else later that weekend, who soon after introduced me to the woman who became my wife.
I was also interested in a woman who was 10 years older that I used to work with. Because I don't date women I work with (and because I tend to be shy), I never asked her out, although everyone knew I had a crush on her. She seemed flattered that I was attracted to her.
I did end up marrying a woman who was 5 years my junior, but I am attracted to women who are as much as 15 years older. When I was single, my interest in older women was more than sexual. I was one of those men who wanted to find a life-long partner, who would hopefully become, as you stated, the mother of my children.
Many men who are attracted to older women do want more than sex. I was actually a virgin into my mid 20's (by choice). Older women tended to seem more mature and closer to being ready for a life-long commitment. That is why I was attracted to older women.
Be proud of your age. Many men will have no problem with it. If you think a man is interested in just sex, don't give him any. If he isn't getting any, his intentions will become clear very quickly.
2007-11-14 09:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew Stewart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the reason why you've been attracting the older men is that you make them feel younger. How old are these guys and why haven't I met you? Also,Maybe the younger ones feel intiminated by your good looks. They feel as if they wouldn't have a shot with someone as attractive as you. And they might be right. What you should do is get out there and mingle. The more you mingle with these younger men,The more they will find you attractive. Oh,Excuse me. My bad. My name is David and it is an honor and a pleasure to be meeting you tonight. I'd consider myself lucky if somebody would talk to me. I've had a problem meeting women for a while. The problem I see before me is that there is no beautiful stranger out there for me. Almost every woman I see,They know me. Don't you worry one iota,Hon. It seems you are still hot and beautiful. It is when they stop coming around you should worry about. I've gotta split for now. If I were in your company as we speak. This would be the time where I'd bow,Reach for your delicate hand,Then kiss it. Wishing you a goodnight and the sweetest of dreams. God bless. Bye now.
2016-04-04 01:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys in their 20's have the fantasy to be with an older woman because its a little taboo...i'm sure you could possibly find some 20-something year old out there that would want a long term relationship and love like you do, but i'm sure they're few and far between....i would definitely say its more for the sexual fantasy...
and by the way do you remember what guys in their 20's are like? that would not be the pool i would dip in if i was older and wanted something serious...at least go for the 30's
2007-11-14 08:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by saraJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25. I've been with 40 year old women and they are hot. Okay the thing is I love them physically just the same as women my age. But with older women or even women in there late 20's, it feels like a battle between time. It's this whole thing with their clocks ticking. Guys in general don't like to feel rushed. But then again there are guys like me that do know about this ticking clock thing. The ting that turns me off in the relationship with a older women is how they try to act/behave like if they're in there 20's. I know your age so that means I'm cool with your age. I have had 2 relationships with older women. And it was the same, their behavior was awkward. From their dressing down to their speech. I ain't saying all women are like that just the ones I've been with. But yes a woman in her late 30's or 40's could have a successful long relationship with a guy in his 20's. But always remember guys differ from guys on their maturity. It's a matter if you pick the right guy. Look at Demi Moore.
2007-11-14 09:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by b_solrac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but there are men out there that young who are looking for a real relationship. Be glad and enjoy. If you were a man and had 20 something women interested in you, you wouldn't even be questioning it. The older woman/younger man thing is the new wave. Take advantage.
2007-11-14 08:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in my 20's , older women would appeal to me for various reasons. Yes, part of it was purely sexual. But there was also the fascination of relating to someone who was more mature and had more experience in life.
On the other hand.....
when I thought of settling down with someone for the long term, I always imagined her to be about my age. As it turned out, I ended up marrying someone younger than me!
I am now 55.
2007-11-14 08:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the guy. Im only 16, (a few years off 20), and most of my friends said they are gonna get with tons of girls (im a guy btw). Id rather just stay with 1 who loves me. Ive watched a lot of dating shows for entertainment, and saw that a lot of the guys who are just in it for the sexual experience seem to be a lot more self centered or are "touchy-feely". It most likely will be hard to figure out if he likes you for you, or for your body. Give each guy a shot. If you think he wants your body, just let him go.
2007-11-14 08:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Shaun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i hate to break your bubble but from my own experience, i think you should think about yours and their stage in life is. meaning, you should know that during the 20s, men tend to just have fun while finding themsleves and really see what they want, however, you are more mature and u have been through that stage in life and you're pretty much done with it so you want something more serious....i just turned 21, but i know what i want in life and i'm going for it( not many guys are like that) i think you should give the chance to someone older who is also fun, young at heart and ready to make committments..Good luck!
don't be shallow!
2007-11-14 08:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Rtistic9 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want no commitment go for them but at the end of the day you will be lonely as all they will want is sex.
2007-11-14 09:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want the hanky-panky. But I'm a woman so take my advice with a grain of salt.
2007-11-14 08:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Avelyn 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋