Yesterday, my best friend was killed for no reason other that an arguement, that lead in him being stabbed in the chest, and dieing. The man whom did such deed, in now faced with murder, my friend can rest,others feel, but I feel he cannot. I'm 900 miles from home, cannot say good bye, and just a bundle of anger. How are such things dealed with properly, from those whom have been through this?
2007-11-14 08:33:32 · 12 answers · asked by Tuck 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i have not been through exactly this sitch, but i can imagine and empathize.
BREATHE... BREATHE more.... then breathe more.
allow yourself to GRIEVE. cry, be held by close people to you. your anger is valid, but don't let it cover the sadness. anger is a tertiary emotion a reaction to protect you from the results of fear.
remember the love/friendship you had with your friend. remember good times.
again, i repeat, do not let the anger take over... grieve.
hang in there. this is horrible.
2007-11-14 08:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by c_and_w_services 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm very sorry for your loss. When things like these happen, they show us how fragile life is. One minute we are here the next one we are gone. Trust God. Ask him for guidance and wisdom during your time of tribulation. Let God into your heart, read the bible, talk to friends and family about how you feel. I'm going through some stuff right now and I believe God is the only that can help me through this. Moments like these make you realize how stupid some people are paying attention to clothes, cars, money, cell phones, houses etc etc instead of treasuring what truly matters God, your familly and friends and your health.
God bless and take care
2007-11-14 09:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by GIOVAN R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes we may not understand why things happen as they do...but know that God is always there to see us through. Only time will heal your pain. I lost my dad at 7 years old...I am 26 now. Losing people that are close to you is not always easy- it's very hard! Pray for strength during this difficult time. I am a firm believer in "Everything Happens for a Reason". Take care,
Diana
2007-11-14 08:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh no Frog, I'm soo very sorry to hear about this. From experience, it's normal and healthy to feel anger from this. Unfortunately time heals wounds. Think of the good times you had with your friend because those memories can be healing also. I pray the man that did this will get his justice and more.
2007-11-15 02:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about your loss,
I lost my sister and brother-in-law almost 11 years ago, they were killed by a drunk driver. They were both innocent, just as your friend was.
The advice I can give is, I am still angry at the lady who hit them, she lived, but then I look at it from the other point of view, and that is God's way of punishing her.
I think about my sister everyday, I know it is very hard right now for you, but it will get easier. It won't be over night, because I still have thoughts of my sister.
You are going to be o.k. it is just going to take time. and it takes more time for others,
2007-11-14 08:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by CarmenS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen my grandparents die of old age and altzheimer's and one of my father's best friends just died of cancer after suffering from a tumor for a year. The way I look at it, these people are free of the suffering and crap of this world and I feel glad they passed on to something better.There's no real right answer for this and never let any Jesus freaks or any religion tell you any better, but this is how I look at it. I do know that all of these people wouldn't want us to be in misery mourning them and would want us at peace, and this is because I knew them. I hope you can find your peace your own way in your own time.
2007-11-14 08:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss.Coping with death takes time.I would think of good things you and your friend did together.For the man that did the terrible deed, I would forgive him. The anger will pass in time. I will keep you in my prayers. Letting your feeling go is so important.
2007-11-14 08:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies.
It's okay to be angry, but keep it in perspective. Your friend has been senselessly taken from you, and you didn't get the closure of being able to say goodbye before his passing.
All you can do is think about the time you got with your friend, and try to think about the positives of your time together rather than fixating on the bitter end.
It takes time and effort. You can get there, though.
2007-11-14 08:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
talking about it helps, drinking and drugs don't, it numbs you, and thats not a good thing, your in a grief process, it is ok to be sad, confused, even depressed some. talking to someone you trust to just "listen" to your feelings helps. It takes time, beleive me, i have been there.If you feel your not doing ok, see a dr or grief counselor, or talk to your pastor. good luck, god bless.
2007-11-14 08:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by do.drop 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have lost lots of people close to me, including my dad recently...the best way I've felt is to talk to your friends. They really will help you through it.
2007-11-14 08:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by TJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋