Is it normal for a 3 and a half year old girl to throw temper tantrums daily?

Question

And she doesnt talk in a normal voice its always a whining annoying cry voice. She will cry over everything and throw massive fits at the drop of a hat.

Answer 1

You may need to be more firm with her now, and let her know this behavior is not going to fly! Spank her, give her time out, different things work with diffrent children

Answer 2

The frequency with which tantrums and other outrageous and unacceptable behavior will crop up is directly proportionate to how effective throwing them is.

...in other words, if she's getting away with it, then she's going to keep on doing it.

It appears - and I'll admit this is a lot of guesswork because there's not a lot included as background in your question - that this little girl has figured out that by being whiny, annoying and abrasive she can get what she wants. It may be nothing more than wanting control of the family dynamic, or something a bit more physical (such as a toy, a treat, etc.), but this evidently is working for her.

So don't expect her to change of her own free will.

If this is your child, it's time for some tough love. What's needed is to reverse the action/consequence relationship; whenever she whines or throws a tantrum, she immediately LOSES whatever it was she was wanting. So, no toy for bad little whiny girl...no candy for tantrum-toddler. Explain in as plain a way as possible that this sort of behavior is not appropriate, and will no longer be accepted...and that every time it's displayed there will be consequences.

It's going to hurt, I've got to tell you. She's going to get a LOT worse before she figures out that you mean business and begins to change as a result. But if you stick to your guns, and enforce what you say - 100% of the time!!! - then you'll find her attitude getting much, **much** better.

Answer 3

It seemed that my 3 year old did it for the attention. Once I started placing her in the other room and ignored her repeated attempts to get me attention, the tantrum would stop. They became less frequent once she realized that I would just place her in the other room and ignore her.

While we were out was another story. If she through a fit while at a store, I would leave. During the ride home I would not say anything basically ignoring her, (and mentally banging my head against the wall) . Once there I would place her in her room until the tantrum ended. Once she was asleep for the night and I could leave her with my husband/babysitter I go back to the store(thank goodness for stores open 24 hours), but I would make sure she knew the next day that I went back and accomplished my shopping without her. You see when I took her to the store and I was able to accomplish my errand without the tantrum I would reward her with inexpensive things like a new coloring book, crayons, her favorite Popsicles, etc. After a while, she did not being left out so there were fewer tantrums. As she grew older I weened her out of the reward system.

Answer 4

Yes , very normal , my 3 year old little girl , is throwing those tantrums since 2, i thought they would last just a year, Hello...l am still seeign them constantly everyday.. I was told that she lacks attention so she is trying to get my attention. I believe in some way it's true , I am spending more quality time and when she gives me a tantrum , I will pull her aside or distance her to a corner where I can discipline her, talk to her without people interfering and saying "oh, poor baby " and I tell her that until she doesn't stop crying , mommy will not do what she is requesting , it's working.. Hang on there, it's tough but you can do it.

Answer 5

its a chronic disease,
many children in america suffer from this terrible illness
and unfortunately many parents don't realize this until its far to late to change anything


Its called eyemaspoild

its a horrible horrible thing to suffer from

But fortunately I have found a cure,

1. let the baby cry and throw her self down,
and at no point pay any attention to her
she will stop when she hurts herself or has had enough

2.explain to the baby that you don't speak spoiled brat and that she must stop her whining, because you cannot understand her

3. NEVER EVER give her what she wants until she follows the rules,

You give her that attention she is looking for and she will keep it up

ignore her and enjoy yourself, put her in her room,
if she throws things thats fine,
let her scream till she passes out, but you cannot let her get rewarded for this bad behavior,
and if there is anyone in the family who will not obey these new rules, KICK THEM OUT OF THE HOUSE
including MOM

When she settles down, and is ready to talk, nicely,
give her whatever she wants,

very important to surround her by positive people who don't speak baby talk ,nor understand whining,

let her watch videos on how to behave, sprout TV has soe great ones

otherwise so does the library and borders books

She is manipulating you, so be the parent

Meg
mother of 3

Answer 6

My daughter is turning 3 on Thanksgiving and I find it harder these days with her because she throws fits all the time. Somedays I feel like I have no control over her. I hope she grows out of it soon. I think it is a normal thing because I have heard this question plenty of times. Good Luck because I am sure age will help her.

Answer 7

I hate to tell you this but yes it is normal. Its really emabrrassing and annoying, but totally normal for a 3 year old! She will grow out of it. If you actively ignore her this might work. By actively ignore I mean physically turn away from her, or leave the room (as long as she is safe), or take her out of the room depending on the situation. Make it known to her that you are ignoring her. Dont talk to her whiloe she is stropping. I tried this with my son and it worked. Give it a try.

Answer 8

My son is 1 spoiled and he has been throwing Lil temper tantrums when he cant have his way. I talk firmly and make sure he know when I say No I mean No and it works, hes learning better everyday I'm sure its a part of parenting!

Answer 9

Every day? No. Absolutely not. Someone needs to teach her that temper tantrums are the WRONG way to get attention.

Answer 10

I think this is where you need to be stern with her. she is doing this to either get attention or get what she wants but you need to show her you are the boss and don't give in to her even if she does it in a store. take her to the car till she calms down and resume what you were doing it will take a lot of patients but stick to what you tell her from the beginning! I hope this helps! (yes it's normal)

Answer 11

well its most likely that 3 year olds 2 have tantrums because if things don't go their way then it happens but u hav 2 train them 2 stop cause if they r use 2 it they will keep going as they get older and they will think that u r a pushover that will get them anything they want.