i'm a single guy, just started an affair with a married woman, a bit older then me, i'm 31, she's 34, she been married 7 yrs, and is financially secure but unhappy it seems... i've never done anything like this before, but i have to say it is incredibly exciting, we haven't had sex yet, but it's goin to happen pretty soon i think, i'm a little worried, i said to her, ok, i'm happy to go along with it, and have a bit of fun as long as no-one gets hurt, so i said to her make sure u delete text mssg's and stuff, and i said dont get caught!!! a she said she doesn't really care if she gets caught - Hmmmm.... i really like her and stuff, but i'm not financially secure at the moment, and not really up for a full on relationship with a divorcee, i really want to sleep with her, but should i, am i making a big mistake ??
2007-11-14 08:28:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up.
People like you are what's wrong with society.
2007-11-14 08:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by IrishFan2011 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are making a mistake. There are other hot girls/women.....tons actually. Unless her husband knows and is cool with it (open marriage type thing), then you are screwing up. RUN DON'T WALK to your nearest starbucks and hit on some new chicks that don't have SERIOUS consequences attached to messing around with them. And I'm not saying that cuz I care about the husband or the marriage, but just as a warning to you. this situation could be BAD news.
in another light, even if NOTHING bad ever happens. You've already wasted precious time in your life worrying, just because you are doing the wrong thing. date someone else, and your worries will be "what shirt should I wear?" instead of "is her husband gonna catch us tonight?". see the difference?
2007-11-14 08:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by NDAZZLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't suggest sleeping with her. She is obviously under a lot of stress and home and this is her way of coping. She wants to spite her husband, she doesn't mind if she gets caught. Don't sleep with her, I think you'll get caught.
If she doesn't love her husband she should divorce him, it's nothing to do with you. You shouldn't be the reason for divorce. Explain to her that if she divorces him, she'll get some of his money. If he divorces her on the grounds of adultery, then she'll get no money.
You are making a big mistake. Someone will get hurt.
She's probably hormonally charged and needs a bit of sex. Women are like that in their 30s, so she may just not be getting the satisfaction at home. But she should talk to her husband about it, not you.
2007-11-14 08:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Gnotknormal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that she doesn't care if she gets caught means she probably HOPES she gets caught so that she can get her husband's attn and make him jealous. i'm not sure if you watch the news (hell, or even csi/law & order/unsolved mysteries), but these things rarely end well and someone ALWAYS gets hurt. sometimes people are lucky enough to only be emotionally hurt, however, sometimes they are physically hurt by the angry spouse. you've already stated that you don't want the baggage this woman would have, so leave her alone and have random, casual sex with women who are available. besides, you never know this women's intentions. i have heard of women sabotaging birth control and i've also heard of women using men to make their man jealous. stop being so naive, you're 31. grow up and get real. she's telling you up front that she isn't planning to cover her tracks. that's enough of an indication that you're just being used to piss off her husband. i don't know if that's really something you wanna get involved with.
2007-11-14 08:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your not wanting to hurt anyone but how would you feel if your wife was cheating on you.. if you like her so much you tell her she needs to tell her husband and divorce him. Your old enough to know better. If this is just about wanting to get layed go get a whore on the street. You don't want to mess up a family which you are because you already said you not sure if your ready for a relationship which tells me it's a mistake and you don't care who you hurt, put yourself in her husbands shoes.
2007-11-14 08:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tara Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman is trouble....get out now while you still can.
Sex, if that is what you are after, is easy to come by, and obviously, if you want a relationship, you are barking up the wrong tree.
If she doesn't care if she gets caught, she will probably make it easy for her husband to find out. That could be dangerous for both of you.
And what if she winds up pregnant? The "who is my baby's daddy?" predicament is very Springer.
I suggest finding sex somewhere else.
Good luck, and I hope this helps! :)
2007-11-14 08:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big mistake why would you want to share a woman with someone else , when there are plenty of single women out there? Your just asking for grief. Trust me on this.
2007-11-14 08:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by krennao 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to be with a woman who would cheat on her husband?! She is already showing you how loyal she is! What if you were married and your wife started having an affair? You would feel horrible and betrayed right? Then why would you do that to another man? Leave her alone. A cheating woman isn't worth anyone's time!
2007-11-14 08:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Snow 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You do not want to get involved with a married woman especially if she don't care about getting caught. Someone is going to get hurt and that someone could be you.
Should she get divorced, that is another matter. Play it safe.
2007-11-15 05:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r making the biggest mistake of ur life! find a different SINGLE woman!
2007-11-14 08:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the epitome of Jerk! How could you sleep with another man's wife. Karma is a *****! Remember that!
2007-11-14 08:39:09 · answer #11 · answered by Little Older, Much Wiser 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋