My Cousin is mad at me because i told his ex gf (who is my friend) that he was cheating on her and now he's sending me NASTY messages and comments and he won't admit he was cheating! And It's making me all sad=[ what do i do?
2007-11-14 08:16:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he truly was cheating, just ignore his outbursts. No one likes it when others know about and bring light to his faults. He's humiliated and is acting defensively to try to make you feel as much hurt as he did by your betrayal of his trust.
I'm not saying that you were right or wrong to spill the beans, just that he's reacting out of multiple hurt feelings. You have to give him time to get over it, but be prepared for it to take a while--a very long while.
2007-11-14 08:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In time your cousin will get over it. Of course you'll feel bad but it's better to be honest and let your friend know the truth than to later find out on her own and get hurt. If he knew you two were friends why did he make you aware of his cheating. It is obvious that you would have gone and told on him and if she was your friend I wouldn't have introduced her to your cousin if he has a rep for cheating.
2007-11-14 08:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a good friend to have. Blood thicker than water NO WAY. Principals and values above blood. Your stuck with family, you Choose your friends. The ex gf should be glad to call you friend.
2007-11-14 08:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Larry S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before....only I wasn't the one that told her. He just assumed it was me because to his knowledge-I was the only one that had the concrete proof of seeing it with my own eyes. He failed to realize though that the girl he was messing around with behind my friend's back had started working at her job. She had SAID it was me because she knew that one of the best ways to get back at him was to ruin our relationship because we were so close. (we were constantly hanging out together and were even roommates...)
This started about 6 months ago, and to be honest-I don't talk to either one of them anymore. Not my friend and not my cousin. I figure it really isn't my loss since all he did anyways was obviously put me in an uncomfortable situation like that and bring un-needed drama into my life. Yes, I wish I was still close with him, but I have tried defending myself countless times and to be honest-no matter what I say-he wont forgive me/believe me until he is ready to. And at that time-if it ever does come around-I dont know I will ever be able to forgive him for not believing me/trusting me. If i do, i know that we will never be as close as what we were before.
All I can say is if you had concrete proof and she is one of your best friends...you should not have been put in that situation. If he was going to cheat, he should have covered his butt better and hid it from you too. In the future, I recommend just staying out of it though. It is better to just let things run their own course when you are stuck in the middle like that. That way-when she does realize it-and she will-it wont ruin you and your cousin's relationship.
Good luck to you.
2007-11-14 08:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ignore him. Too bad for him. He shouldn't have been cheating. Its not your fault that his gf found out, it would have came out anyway. Sometimes we do what we think is right and this is what happens. You are a good friend to her.
2007-11-14 08:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to cut the relationship with this one. If he sees other girls the way he does you then screw him. You could probably find a nicer person. If he does not text you back then don't waste your time anymore. Let him go be a cheater! And you go and find someone who cares.
2016-05-23 04:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was probly best thatyou stay out of it. cheaters will alwaysget caught. you got yourself stuck between a rock and a had place. youll know better next time. of course he doesnt want to admit to it, that would make him look bad. tell him that you only told her cause he didnt need to be with her anyway, that youthought you was doing him a favor.
2007-11-14 08:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Positive he was cheating? I mean actually saw it with your own eyes? Cause maybe he wasn't. If you did see it with your own eyes then he will just have to get over it you did the Right thing.
2007-11-14 08:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by tonice248 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, you don´t know if that girl will always be your friend, but your cousin, oh yes, he will, let them solve their problems, and don´t get involved, see a simple situation has become a problem with a relative.
2007-11-14 08:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even tho it is ur cuz u told on
don't worry if it was ur friend he was cheating on then that was good for you
I did also so don't worry
2007-11-14 09:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by jbkk17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋