My friend is in a rough spot and a am not sure what to tell her she means a lot to me and I hate to see her in such pain. I asked her how she was doing and this is how she responded. " My life is falling apart. My family is falling apart, my body is falling apart, my heart is falling apart, we have to get rid of my dog, My Dad's been out of town now for five weeks, my moms like dying of pain and I can't do anything because of freaking ankle,( she tore all the ligiments in her ankle 3 weeks ago) my senior year is like crap from here on."
What can I do to take some of that pain away from her to make her feel better?
2007-11-14 08:13:11 · 4 answers · asked by west17lake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Advise her to make a list of all the things that are getting her down. With so many incidences averting her thoughts she will be confused and not be able to actually get things done.
(I know the scenario quite well and unfortunately it cost me a new lease of life, a new direction and two very loving people)
The thing is.... people can only help so far .. .. you can give them all the support and advice but in the end THEY have to act on it. Only they, will know the severity of each situ, but an outsider looking in... can realistically prioritise the hurdles to be surmounted.
Get her to make the list, ask her permission to read it, in order that you can go through it with her and cross out the ones that need EXPERT assistance (doctors, solicitors, C.A.B)
You can look up stuff on the net' and prepare yourself with factual stuff, tried and tested methods, then you can help her with your interpretation of the best course of action. With so much on her mind, surfing the internet for solutions will be just another struggle for her.... thats one thing you can do...
I suppose the main thing is to be around, to be a listening ear and supportive. Smile and reassure but dont pacify or patronize. Give her your number and tell her to use it day or night and remember to be respectful of her privacy.
Already you are helping by asking for advice .. Real friends, help someone choose a course of action (as opposed to suggesting one because "everyone else says this or does that"
Help her make the right choices. No ONE person can deal with an entire family falling apart ... and doctors should be seeing to the ligament pains and her mum's dilemma... trim the list realistically and it will lighten the load.
Wish I could help more. May God guide your efforts.
2007-11-14 08:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can't take away her pain but you can comfort her and support her and her family. It would mean a lot to her more than you even think.
2007-11-14 16:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a huge hug and just be there for her. Let her talk, let her cry, pray for her (if you believe in that), etc. That's what a good friend can do.
2007-11-14 16:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plenty of cuddles.x
2007-11-14 16:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by gracie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋