shoes for my wedding, mother dislikes, your thoughts please !?

Question

ok long story short..i love love love shoes! i have hundreds of shoes from $20 vintage shop ones to $2000 designer signed ones. so for my wedding i want to get a basic classy white heal but die it a very very light blue (for my some thing blue) my mother thinks this is very tacky and wants me to do white. i figured no one will see them any ways. is this a battle worth fighting with my mother? or should i just find some thing else blue?

Answer 1

Both my mom and MOH felt the same way. I decided this was not something worth fighting for, and will do something else for my something blue.

Answer 2

Ice blue might actually be quite stunning against a white dress. Do realize, however, that people will see your shoes, even though your dress is long. Your shoes are visible when you walk and when you're dancing as the dress moves. Only you can decide if this is worth a fight with your mother about. It's easy to find something else blue. But, I think it would look fine.

Answer 3

I think it sounds cute. Everyone's familiar with the "something borrowed, something blue" saying, so I think most people would smile if they saw your blue shoes. It sounds like you have a good sense of humor and if that's an important part of your personality, tell your mother you want this wedding to really reflect both you and your husband to be, and not to just be a rite of passage that just involves checking off all the traditional boxes. Remind her that people won't really see the shoes, except for maybe the garter toss, and that tradition's a bit cheeky as it is, so why not make it more fun by showing off the dyed shoes? If your mother is absolutely dead-set on finding something else blue, make a deal with her -- if you can find something blue that will make you both happy, fine, but if not, you're going with the blue shoes.

Answer 4

People will probably catch a glimpse of blue shoe here and there but if that doesnt worry you, then wear them.
Is your mother wearing the shoes? No, so she shouldnt have to make an issue over it. And what a silly, silly, non important thing to be arguing over. At the end of the day, WHO CARES what a bride wears on her feet. She could wear desert boots for all anyone would care.
Just get the blue shoes, stick them in your cupboard and forget about them already.

Answer 5

Yes! Blue shoes are an awesome idea for a wedding! You're absolutely right about them not showing -- yet they're perfect for your "something blue" because of your love of shoes. Rock on!

If you're nervous about them not turning out right (I dyed a dress light pink and it turned out dark purple once!) you might want to get those dyeable shoes where you send in a swatch of fabric and they dye the shoes to match. They do that for bridesmaid dresses.

If you want to DIY, it's good too - don't worry about them too much, though, 'cause they won't show.

As far as telling your mom, just explain that it is important to you that you be yourself and that this is not really something she should have an opinion about. They're your feet -- she won't even see them! If it continues to bother her, just make it clear to her that you will be putting on your shoes in "private" so that you don't "upset" her. Act like a rebellious child sneaking around if you have to. She'll realize how ridiculous of a battle it is and back off.

Answer 6

Just so you're thinking about it - everyone will see your shoes when you do the garter toss.

I'd say it's definitely a battle not worth fighting - especially if your mother is going to be a stickler on it. I don't know that I'd call it tacky, per se, but it's probably just not worth fighting over.

Maybe you could find a simple white shoe and add a blue ribbon or bow that would help you accomplish all of the above.

Answer 7

If you want blue shoes for YOUR wedding, then you shall have blue shoes for YOUR wedding. Remind your mother whose wedding this is--it's yours, not hers.

Personally, I think it's a great touch. My sister is wearing red shoes when she gets married. I wore new Reeboks with lace in the ties, my other sister wore little ballet flats. Your shoes are kind of like lingerie at your wedding--you're about the only person who knows about them.....that's what makes it fun!

Have a great wedding!

Answer 8

It's YOUR day. If changing your shoes from white to light blue is going to make you happy. Your mother will get over it. I had the same idea for my wedding only I never found the perfect shoe to dye. Good Luck & Congratulations!!

Answer 9

do the blue shoes! that is what you want.. your mother already had her wedding.. this is YOURS!! dont even talk about it again.. just do it.. your right.. its not worth fighting over it.. on HER part! if thats what you really want, thats what you should get.. that is such a nonsense simple little thing.. you shouldnt have even told her.. just do what you want!!!!! me and my mother are VERY close.. she is actually my maitron of honor.. her personality is a controlling one.. and she knows it.. lol.. so i have kept everything to myself.. she along with everyone else will be surprised with everything at my wedding! too many opinions are not good when it comes to weddings! good luck with everything!

Answer 10

it's your wedding so do what you want. If it's going to be a HUGE fight with your mother you might consider saving yourself the headache, but this day is supposed to be all about you and your future husband and what the two of YOU want so if shoes are your thing then do what you want! It might not be her style but who cares what anyone else thinks?