I need some help...?

Question

In talking with a friend last night i realized i need some help. Years ago a parent was killed in an accident, other family has died, marriage is on the rocks, and right now my relationship with my child is not the best. I am so alone. I am not accepting all the blame for my marriage problems even through my husband would like to put them on me but at this point it doesn't matter. I hate the person I have become. I can't even look in the mirror anymore. Everyday is a struggle to get out of bed. My friend thinks i am clinically depressed... has anyone been on antidepressants? What has worked for you?

Answer 1

One very positive point you make is that you are not accepting all the blame even though your husband thinks so. This may sound harsh but, you are the only one who can make the changes you hate about yourself. If you hate them, then you need to make the choices that will make you happy so you like yourself again. Yes, I have been on antidepressants and they aided me in self motivation. If you believe in God, I recommend a book by Charles Stanley named the Reason for My Hope. This book turned my life around and for that I am very grateful. I also started a gratitude book where I made a entry every day for what I was thankful for....some days it was just being able to brush my teeth. Sometimes we forget about all the good things in our lives and only focus on the negatives. This is geared for us to start thinking about the positives. I also started journaling every day and this should focus on your feelings about anything and everything that day. These tools will not cure you overnight but take baby steps and little by little the light will become brighter. Good luck.

Answer 2

Your pain is quite evident, and you know you need help. The best plan is to see a Psychiatrist, or even a Psychologist. Either type of doctor can decide if you need medication and/or therapy. I have been on antidepressants for a few years now, and I feel completely normal and happy even though I live with a very painful back and neck from an accident years ago that tore up my life. There is some trial and error, and some hard work on your part, but they will get you back to a normal, happy, functioning person. Ask your physician, or people you know for recommendations to either of the above doctors. If you aren't comfortable at anytime with anyone you choose, don't hesitate to switch. Trust is essential. If you can't find a good one, call urgent care, or your local hospital emergency room. The nurses there kind of know who's good in the area. This has always worked for me. Stay positive in getting help, and you will feel like a new person-no one needs to live in depression!

Answer 3

You need to see a doctor. They will prescribe something for you and if it isn't right for you they will try something different. You need to see one right away. If you are a religious person there's a book by Joyce Meyers called "Battlefield of the mind" that would probably help. Don't try to handle this all by yourself. Talk to friends and your spouse about what you are going through. Exercise is probably the last thing you want to do now, but try going for walks, get some sunshine, get out with friends and go skating, bowling or anything you can think of that would be fun. Changing your diet to eat healthier can also make you feel better. Try to cut down on sugars and processed foods...eat fruits and veggies. Go as natural as you can...drink water if possible. Stay away from aspartame. Counseling would be of a big help too. Try sharing funny stories from your past with your spouse and friends...if they join in, you may all be feeling better...and your spouse closer to you. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

I have been in your shoes before and I know exactly how you feel,you feel right nippy at the bone and everything you try to do is wrong in your eyes and you just can't seem to feel any better.well my dear you have got to first off get up from where you are and look at the mirro and say to yourself I am me and no one can or will change me but me and what I do in my life matters to me and I'll do my best of what I can to make it.Men and woman both blame each other for mistakes and no one wants to admit of fault either,well you have to do things step by step first things first and gradually work your way to other problems pick out what means to you most and do that first and then proceed to other things.You may be depressed but you can get yourself out of it,and its going to take time but with help you can.get yourself a notebook and write a daily journal of your thoughts and what you want out of this and what your going to do to do it and stick to it,what you write in this book let no one read for this is your own terriorty and domain.Don't hate yourself and you can change and you will change.I'm taking cymbalta right now and I love this pill it has helped me so much that I can focus on my life and get by day by day, and I suggest you try it.Go to the doctor and talk over about this and go from there.I wish you all the luck in the world,a nd if you need a friend to listen to or chat with form time to time I'd be honored to be that someone or you need to do is just say so.good Luck and have a good day.

Answer 5

It sounds like you may be clinically depressed. Antidepressants work differently for everyone, so don't take advice from others!

If you have insurance, call your provider and get a referral for a psychiatrist and a counselor.

If no insurance, call your county mental health line and ask what resources would be available to you.

Answer 6

I am on antidepressants and years ago I couldn't function myself...I would call my mom and beg her to do something to me because I didn't want to live anymore but I couldn't kill myself....I would call her day and night begging her to help me I was in so much pain.
Today I'm doing great with meds, therapy and in-hospital treatment....you need to see a doctor to help you....there is hope out there even if you can't see it.

Answer 7

first BREATHE.

look at your negative thought patterns. (the negative voice in your head that tells you that you are crap, useless, fat, ugly etc etc etc) there is a lot of that noise, right?

then, BREATHE

you are a human and sometimes life is REALLY hard.

you REALLY do not need to make things harder than they already are.

what exercise are you getting DAILY?

go out TODAY and WALK 15 minutes.

get a note book and begin a gratitude llist. (see my previous postings)

hang in there. it can and will get better if you put forth the effort and YOU CAN DO IT!!!

let us know how you are doing!

you can email me privately

hypnotherapy-psychotherapy dot com

Answer 8

I do get some guilt sometime realizing that I am still learning from my unforgetable mistake.

Sometime you have to learn to forgive yourself.