Sadly, my looks are plain, while my personality is not. I'm not a superficial person myself, but every man, with whom I have similar interests, is rather attractive and therefore, I feel like i have no chance. I'm not chubby or fat in anyway, but I'm not a 10.
Seriously, every guy who is a film buff, music fanatic, and intelligent is very cute!
I'm very confident about myself in terms of personality and intellect, but I loose every shred of self-esteem because I'm scared I'm not good enough.
Oh and I'm only in college, so looks seem to play a high prememium, leaving kind, playful plain chicks out in the Massachusettes cold (which is lately and freakishly warm: damn climate change!)
So, attractive men, would you date someone who fits you like a glove personality wise, is mature, but not traditionally "hot?"
2007-11-14 05:24:06 · 14 answers · asked by Carolina P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, we seem to live in an era of instant self-gratification: we want "hot" people to essentially gratify us and when the novelty wears off, we run to the next idol of worship. I find that appalling and incredibly immature. Do any of the male specimens agree?
2007-11-14 05:27:54 · update #1
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trust me, I'm not cute, but at my age, playing the field is much more difficult that findin a solution to curb rising sentiments of extreme nationalism in Russia!
2007-11-14 05:33:44 · update #2
You might think your plain looking but guys don't , and don't ever think or act like a guy is out of your league because you will come across as a girl that has no interest in us and we won't waste our time trying to get to know you....
2007-11-14 05:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the attractive mans personality. If there is chemistry between a man and a women, looks go out the door, but then again chemistry some times depends on looks. So, if you are so concerned about finding an attractive guy maybe your own personality lacks sincerity, and you will be doomed to live a sad lonely life searching for other superficial people while you pass over nice plain dudes who just want a nice plain girl. So stay on your side of the train tracks and accept the fact that appearances is not sound basis for a relationship.
2007-11-14 05:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by KEYNARDO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking so much about your looks, and think for a minute about your style. Lots of women who were not blessed with conventional beauty have been unforgettable because of their style.
You already have humour, brains and a sense of fun. You need to shed this idea of yourself as unloveable and plain, and maybe developing your personal style will help. Are you classic or kooky, a Fifties fan or a mdoern girl, an arty minimalist type or an exuberant hippy? Somewhere inside you is the template for your personal look - not just clothes and hair, but your home, how you present yourself, the inner you made manifest. Find your style and you've struck gold. Beauty fades, but style lasts forever.
Of course, it will take self-belief and confidence to promote your own style, but you can do it. Enjoy!
2007-11-14 05:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Helen M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn! I agree with jamiefay... I won't deny it, I do have high standards, but... If you could keep an intelligent conversation going for more than 10 minutes, I'd give you 10 chances :) Maybe you've just been focusing on the wrong type of guy, looking in the wrong places. Also, think of activities and somesuch that you enjoy doing and go scouting for guys who do the same, there's your starting point for conversation. Oh, and keep flashing that winning smile :)
2016-04-04 00:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and women are always more attractive when they're confident. When you learn to love yourself - all of yourself - you'll realize that it's not about looks. Do something to boost your image of your physical self: color your hair, get a new cut or style, get a manicure, wear more (but still tasteful) makeup, etc. Yes, college guys can be very immature, but not every guy is like that. You may not have luck now, but wait it out.
2007-11-14 05:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me personally i do not go by looks i go by what that girl has on the inside like her personality, I don't care if she fat or butt ugly lol Because i don't want some hot chick who is dumb and just likes to screw around ie: town bike. im not saying that i am hot either i am an average 19 year old who does not have alot of money in debt but can still go out and have fun with my friends and all my friends think that i am the best boyfriend in the world because of what i did to my ex girlfriend on our 6 month. im not saying that i am immature or mature but im right there i the middle. And iwaht i have to say to you is live you life to the fullest and you specal man will come to you one day. Just go out and have fun don't worry about your looks not all guys are picky on what girl to go out with. All my guy friends that i know are like me well most of them.
any ways good luck
Mike
2007-11-14 05:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by T.H.C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I know from experience. Attractive guys do like girls with hot personalities. Because it seems "hot" girls are somewhat superficial. Plain looking girls with awesome personalities are flawless to guys.. I don't find myself that good looking either but I do have a lot of confidence. I'm very playful and fun. I've met a lot of very attractive guys who have been interested in me because of this. I know that even if you guys aren't in a relationship they can still be awesome friends. Most attractive guys aren't haughty and stupid like everyone thinks they are. You just need to watch how you act towards them. Be true to them and yourself; chances are they will be true to you.
2007-11-14 05:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course! Any man who wouldnt just because someone isn't a "10" is just a selfish, self righteous, egotistical, and shallow jerk who doesnt deserve the kind of happiness that a REAL woman could provide him.
Don't let the bastards keep you down. Go on and flirt and be confident, because you have something these other girls dont have.
The ability to carry a conversation out side of shoes, the mall, and who got kicked off survivor...
and an I.q. exceeding your bra size.
2007-11-14 05:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No being very hand some myself men have categories for women
1 beautiful women we'd like to screw
2 beautiful women we see ourselves with on alongterm basis or marriage
3 women who are not necessarily beautiful but still look very good
4 women who are not ugly but not particularly beautiful either
5 ugly
I personall have a lot of female freinds most of them tend to be very beautiful
also most people tend to choose their freinds based on looks I'm not gay but I am comfortable enough in my manhood that I can tell another man he looks gooo of course being a manly man i don't dwell on it because that would be very faggoty now a few of my female frinds are ugly but in most cases it depends on a mans economic status looks and confidence level for example
do you think Vivica Fox would have given 50 cent's ugly bullet riddle behind the time of day if he wasn't rich and obviously his son's mom was'nt all that considering his son looks like a troll so in the scheme of things for women its
more personality some of the time but for men its purely physical unless he's
just screwing just to screw then in that case you might have a chance because he can always close his eyes
2007-11-14 05:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by snakeeyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think not.
This kind of thing can only happen on movie. But if you have money, may be things will change. I myself a plain woman, but I am rich. Last time I met a hot guy on SugarmommyMeet.com, he loved me so much. Next month we will have our wedding. Am I lucky?
2007-11-17 14:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by linda 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋