Why can't I just tell him the truth- that I'd rather hang out with actual FRIENDS than go to some stupid office holiday party?
2007-11-14 05:13:42 · 20 answers · asked by COLTSfansince1994 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel like Peter Gibbons over here.
2007-11-14 07:30:41 · update #1
I just don't think it right that I have to spend a few more hours with people I already spend 40 hours/week with.
2007-11-14 08:19:38 · update #2
depends on how far up the ladder you are now and how far up you want to get. it doesn't hurt to stop by for a soda/drink and then be on your way
2007-11-14 05:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First big question, are you really going to miss another party by attending this one? If so, can you hit the office for an appearance then move on?
Second big question, is this some affair that the boss puts some planning and money into, so that ducking it may be taken as a slight? If so, you better attend.
Third, are you throwing away a chance to network &/or get to know other people on a first-name basis? Yes, that's like work, but may pay-off big time.
2007-11-14 05:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a boss and have had people skip my parties and unfortunately,it makes you fell kind of bad. You work hard to get food, entertainment then BAM! no one shows up it is frustrating. But, I realize that my kind of party may not be your kind of party and other certain circumstances so I think you should let you boss know that you ,"have other engagements"-I even do that for other events and no one is upset. I think telling the truth is the best way but, unfortunately, there is no way to know how your boss will take it. So a generalized statement is not a bad idea.
2007-11-14 05:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Googler 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The holiday party, while usually optional, is something you shouldn't miss. Show up, mingle for a while, and have some punch. Your interaction at the party will show your boss that you have good rapport and group participation with your coworkers. People who fail to show for such an event can often be branded troublemakers, or outcasts.
2007-11-14 05:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's an annual bash... it would be a very bad career move. Your boss took the time to plan the event ... you should have the courtesy of showing up with a gift to say thank you.
Unless of course your planning on updating your resume really soon.
2007-11-14 05:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you can be seen as someone who's not a team player or doesn't like the people he works with-meaning the first chance you get, you're out of there. once you get this label, they're not going to trust you with promotions or any long term projects.
do yourself a favor and make an appearance. bring a bottle of wine. have a drink/bite and after 30 minutes
2007-11-14 05:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by CGAA72 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
not cool, especially if you want to get in good with the boss. Events like that are important, and you can make some good contacts sometimes. I had a company event in september that i didn't want to go to, but some of the clients their were talking to my boss about me and how pleseant and helpful I was. Lets just say my review went very nicely.
2007-11-14 05:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by loving life!!!!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
properly are you desirous to lose your activity or are you gonna attempt to make him look undesirable? i'm no longer extremely positive what type of answer your searching for. The worst element i think might want to be to call him an ******* or telling he's a jerk. in case you do not choose your activity then in basic terms end.
2016-10-24 05:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a really bad thing. However, here's what I've done in the past. Show up on time. Bring a gift such as a box of chocolates or bottle of wine. Shake hands firmly and thank your host honeslty for being thoughful enough to invite you. Mingle until most of the guests are there and be VERY NICE. When it starts getting crowded, pull your host aside, tell him/her your mother/father/sister (whoever) has had a flat tire and you will have to leave. Express your regret at leaving such a great party and mention you look forward to seeing everybody back at work on Monday. What they will remember most is your charm and your regret at leaving early. DON'T go anywhere after that you're likely to be seen by anyone else at the party. Good luck!
2007-11-14 05:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by originalkippyj 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Let your boss know that you have other plans for that day. Tell him you are sorry you can not make it and thank him for the party anyways. (you do not have to go to the boss's party for any reason)
You may be a bit intimanated by you boss and that makes you have a hard time in telling him what you are thinking.
2007-11-14 05:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by TB 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋