should i give her another chance?

Question

i meet this girl in the 9th grade and we were together for 4 months i treated her like my queen and she left me for a guy that finish school and he broke her heart then she went to another guy and he used her and left her and now she wants to come back to me what should i do i have feelings for her but i dont trust her and she still cant tell me why she left me should i give her another chance or let it go

Answer 1

Dont take her back, it seems like she was using you until she finds someone else again who she believe is better. You are never gonna be good enough for a girl like that. she will more than likely leave again. She cant even be open with you about why she left you, please move on and be happy.

p.s. a guy did that to me for about 2 years and messed me around and i stupidly fell for it while he just used me until someone else came along.

Answer 2

Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship and if you cannot trust her, then you must let her go. It sounds as if she has issues with being happy with herself that she needs to work on. You don't want to have her this way, she will only hurt you again. Be friends with her, if you can, and make it clear to her that "friends only" is your intent. If you cannot do this, with out wanting something more, then walk away. She is not ready for a long-term relationship and I think you know this in your heart, or you would not be asking the question.
She left you because she has issues with her self concept that need to be resolved. She does not love herself and must find this love through others. In reality, you can only truly love others when you love yourself.
Good Luck Sweetie.

Answer 3

Well because she done this to you there will be no trust in you and this really hurt when you love someone you are young there is great things ahead in life. I found Out when you lose trust in some one it's hard to trust them again only God can do that. I wouldn't let you want to do but stay on the watch.

Answer 4

Heres the thing when you treat girls too nice they take advantage because they know that you wont hurt her, but when you treat them the way they dont like aguy to be than they stay with you is weird how are minds work, I think that you shouldnt go back with her just make her cry for alittle bit to see how bad she wants you, if you think she had enough than give her chance just dont give it ur all becuase like everyne knows if you are a cheater thsn you will always be acheater.

Answer 5

Do what you want to do what can it hurt? I can tell you this when young the nice guys that treat you like a queen are not that much of a challenge so it gets boring that may be why she left you???

Answer 6

of course not dude, she's no good. you will be cheated on again by other women in your life. it's a fact of life that you just have to deal with, what you shouldn't have to deal with is someone who already cheated on you. there's no such thing as being left for someone else, it only means that person already had intentions to be with someone else while she was with you. you can't be mad at her, she's doing her thing, now you gotta do yours, she doesn't want you back, she wants to play games. My advice is try to bang one of her friends and give her a taste of her own medicine, this might seem harsh or like I'm joking but I'm being 100% serious. Start doing this now and you will grow up to be a fine member of the "Real Men" club. ONe more thing, DO NOT TRUST ANYTHING THAT BLEEDS FOR DAYS AND DOESN'T DIE!!!!

Answer 7

Man I wouldn't but you want to take her back by the sounds of it.
She cant even tell you why she left you and if you cant trust her dont even bother it's just going to kill you when ever she not by your side because your going to think about what she doing and if she actually telling the truth..

Answer 8

If it will make YOU happy, then yes, take her back.

But you cannot attach strings to it because that would start the re-relationship off on a sour note. Be aware that she may do the same thing again. If you are emotionally prepared for the risk, I say have at it.

Answer 9

Well trust is a big part of a relationship and if you don't trust her how can you be with her. She can't tell you why she left you.. what the hell.... What makes you think she won't do it again. She is one of those who thinks the grass is greener on the other side and don't be her default guy.

Answer 10

let it go. a relationship with her won't work without trust.. also, i agree with those here who said that she can't be alone and she just wants someone to be there. of all the guys she's been with, you are the only one you has treated her well.. either she does realise her mistake or she might be using that to her advantage.. but both ways, having trust issues don't bode well for any relationship..