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Question

I just kind of want to know what others think. I'm sure I'll know the decision when I get there. Mind you I really love my parents they are just a bit over protective.

My mom wants me to go to Louisville University close by home. She say she want me close and I can come home, no dorm that sort of thing.

I however have a boyfriend who is going to Unity Maine, and he loves it. I wanna study animals, badly and the more I look over Unity the more I fall in love with it. Now I want to go badly, I'm pretty sure I can get in. It'll be very far from home, but it'll give me everything I need. It's expensive I know that but it can get me where I want to be. Hands on and totally perfect.

I'm just confused, and she talked about transferring. However I would rather not transfer. I'm not the type that likes to move around, and would prefer it to be permanent then to switch.

~I would not go to Unity because of my Boyfriend just so you know, it's a plus but he's been there and know my dreams. He says it what would get me there.~

I mean Unity has the hands on experiences with animals. It is a school all about animals, and studing them. It is a really good school for animals.

Yeah I am aware of that, but I would not go because of my boyfriend. Even after we split we might be friends, and yeah he might not be the one. It would be scary, very scary. Thanks

Answer 1

First you must look at why you want to attend Unity Maine over Louisville University.If this decision is based on your future career choice then you must make your decision based on something more solid than your boyfriend's opinion,who may or may not have a different agenda than you.Talk to the guidance councellor of your school who will sit down with you and try help you sort out which school will have the best academic curriculum in order to meet your goals.You fail to state what career you would be studying for. A second consideration is cost.While it may sound exciting to go away to another state for school, the cost of living away from home can substantially increase the cost of your education. Even with student loans, grants ,bursaries, scholarships etc. you can make end meet.However with loans you have to repay them.Could you handle working part time or full time if needed in order to live away from home and still attend school fulltime.College life is very different from high school.You are expected to do a lot of independent study, reports, projects,etc.You are expected to meet deadlines for papers with very little forgiveness if it is late.To stay in your program you will have to maintain a minimum grade or you will be given conditional entry into the next semester or in some cases be sent home.There are a lot of pressures in attending college, do you think that you are prepared for all these changes.You will get homesick at times even if you think you won't.There will be times you want to throw in the towel from frustration.You said that you did not pick Maine because your boyfriend is going there.If he loves you he will want you to go to the best school for YOU. When you go to college you make a new circle of friends, have new experiences and hopefully will gain more wisdom.For the record, nothing in life is "totally perfect".Just do me a favor, tell your boyfriend that Louisville offers the same course he is taking in Maine and see if he will change schools for you. What happens if you don't stay together and that wouldn't be the first time that has happened.I'm sure you are an intelligent person and will think this through.Just don't discount your mom's input because she will always have your best interests at heart.Good luck.

Answer 2

When you say that going to Unity has everything you need what does that mean? The classes you need to follow your dreams of working with animals? Or the fact that your boyfriend will be there and support you in your dreams?
I think your mom has every right to be protective about you. You will be leaving home to go to college and well, I'm telling you, life away from home is scary. Especially when your young. I remember leaving my parents home 2 weeks after graduation and every time something happened I had to figure it out on my own without my parents because I decided to move too far (8 hour drive away). When I moved to Florida to start my family because my ex had his family out there it went smoothly at first, but when I separated from my husband I had no family out there of my own and decided I needed to move back to my home town.
Stay with Louisville U for the first year, just so you know you got your prereq.'s done, then transfer later. Think about it, what happens when you and your boyfriend split up in the middle of the year? You'd be so heart broken that you would want to go back home, but you can't because you made a commitment to the school already. Your young, you don't know if he is the one yet, once you hit college life EVERYTHING changes and your mom is WELL AWARE of this. Believe it or not, she's saving you before you need the saving. Listen to her because she means well and she knows what she's talking about.