i really want to get on with my mum, but she always shouts, and as i have always stuck up for my self, i shout back then we argue and then sometimes throw something at me, or slap me on the leg or head, and im fed up, i love her with all my heart but she makes me sad, im only thirteen and wish we could get on..
i dont talk to her about anything, well, i will talk to her about normal stuff like the Tv or tea time, but nothing personal..
i get on with the rest of my family, but my dad works away and when he comes home he sometimes gets mad at me too, i arent a bad child! im polite, im never in trouble i respect my elders.. and i just dont see why my mum cant like me..
Please help, its really depressing me.. thanks
2007-11-14 04:13:04 · 12 answers · asked by Darlin'x 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i asked my mum why she always shouted and she said, its becos im ill, (shes got to go into ospital)
and now i feel bad, but shes got to take some responsibility, and yes, im an only child!
2007-11-14 04:36:25 · update #1
are you an only child?
this is really sad,she shouldnt be throwing things at u or slapping you.maybe if u sat down with your mum and spoke to her ask where the problem is?
perhaps she is under a lot of stress bcos ur dad works away, & ur dad is under stress at work so when he comes home hes moody too.
im sure she loves you, sometimes its easy to get mad at the person closest to u when ur under stress.
when i was 14 i went through a bad patch with my mum, now im 25 i have 3 small children &my husband is away & i can understand why she would get stressed so fast over small things! now were so close.she said she felt like she couldnt get through to me when i was a teenager.
maybe she feels u dont want to talk to her if u only speak about tv etc? she needs u as much as u need her & i bet she dosent know how to approach u either.
speak to her, say ur hurting,have a good cry together, tell her things about yourself-friends & school.
if she dosent want to sort things, which im sure she does, then u just need to be strong, mabe live with someone else in ur family? do ur best at school, college, uni & be the best u can to ur own children when u have them.
i hope u get things sorted out.but u must be brave and sit down with her and talk, say u love her but dont feel close anymore,good luck, x
2007-11-14 04:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This very sad and there is no easy way out of this. Your mum sounds kind of sad. I guess you are not going to stop sticking up for yourself so you will continue to have rows with your mum. Maybe your mum can't handle talking about the personal stuff. Perhaps you could talk to the reast of your family about that. Shame your dad gets mad at you to sometimes when he comes home. I'm sure you're a nice person, I hope things improve for you.
2007-11-14 12:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by ketkonen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somtimes its hard for parents to get along with thier 13 year old daughters because at this stage in your life you may have a very different point of view than adults. I think if you just stay away from her and give her some time away from you she will cool off. Let her know you are sick of fighting and tell her you are sorry and you will try to make things better with whatever she is fighting about. Good luck!
2007-11-14 12:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by puff_coco_shimmy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be shouting at your mom for any reason even if she is the one that starts shouting. Try talking to your mom or write her a letter expressing how sad it makes you feel when you argue. I wrote one to my mom 15 years ago and to this day she reminds me about the letter and tells me that she didnt realize how she was making me feel when we would argue, after reminishing about the letter she always sais I love you, you mean the world to me. I never knew that she loved me as much as she does until we talked about the letter and my feelings. So just talk to her about it.
2007-11-14 12:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. what do you mainly argue about! 2. if you feel that she argues with you, such as she starts it, start writing a diary. Do this anyways, it always helps to write problems down. I've been there where you are. always a good child when i was younger. always told, to shut up and all. i was never mean to anybody, couldn't wait to get older, and get my own place. i two was always slapped for no reason. 3. then when i got older, was able to realize, it wasn't me. it was my mom. it was just who she was. This made me feel so much better, it wasn't me!
2007-11-14 12:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok since your dad works AWAY....maybe when your mom asks you to help out and you don't she get's mad and yells at you. I'm a mom and I get mad and start yelling cause my daughtger doesn't do when I ask her to help out around the house. this is after I've told her 10 times and I told her to do it on like Monday and it's Wednesday. Since your father works away you need to pitch in and help her around the house.
But she shouldn't hit or slap you. I would suggest sitting down with her and telling her what you just wrote to us. let her kow how you feel. Ask her why she is yelling and hitting you. ask her if you can help in any way.
2007-11-14 12:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by jennajade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 11 and I argue with my mom all the time....one time she even pulled a knife out on me...well actually it happened last Sunday and she locked me outside the house for an hour nd I was in my pj's and I was cold and sockless and my neighbors stared but didnt help me when my mom tackled me and threatened that she would go to jail for attempted murder at me....anyway all you gotta do is try to start fresh with her or get some counseling or take some classes for y'all to bond and all...
2007-11-14 16:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by A Girl With a Dream 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im sorry to hear that she does this to you... i have that going on right now me and my step dad... well what i would do is write my mom a letter telling her that i feel like she doesnt want me here and that she hates me... but in your case i dont know have one of your family members talk to her about it saying that if she doesnt stop then someone is gonna have to take you in cuz of how your mom is treating you... she right now my step dad and i argue a lot cuz im not his child so in like 5 months im moving back to california to meet my real dad (i havent seen him sence i was 1 half)... well good luck
2007-11-14 12:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by im the wifey type 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad and I'm sorry you're in this situation.
Do you have a grandparent or aunt/uncle that you can speak with? Or a school counselor?
Good luck to you.
2007-11-14 12:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry 4 u its not nice when you dnt get on with your mum i think you should see a chool counciler at our school we have a peer couniler and they help you to sort the problem out by talking to you and helping you
2007-11-14 12:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋