Hello parents. I have been a nanny for 3.5 years for the same family. I disagree with ALOT of things but I follow the rules of the house regardless of how much I disagree with them...
9 year old son stayed home "sick" from school yesterday. His friend was supposed to come home on the bus with him but since he was sick it got messed up. 9 year old asked me if we could go pick his friend up from school to which I replied "I don't think it's right for him to come over if you're sick. You have a cough and he has asthma so it probably isn't a good idea."
Later my boss called and told me to let the friend come over still!!! 9 year old was now suddenly feeling better!!After that the friends mom called and said she didn't want him over if 9 year old was sick (I agree with her whole-heartedly) so she left work early to come and pick him up.
9 year old is home again today sick and playing the video game he rented ALL DAY!
Is it crazy to let him have a friend over when he stays home sick?
2007-11-14 03:35:05 · 10 answers · asked by laura1977 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ahhh..I feel so much better. I love my boss's and the kids but sometimes I swear...I have no kids and am 30 so some people say "You don't know...when you have kids you'll understand." That ticks me off...I DO understand and when I have kids I will use all the lessons I have learned from this family about what NOT to do.
Thank you for your comments and easing my mind. I will be sure to post again when another issue arises...
2007-11-14 04:00:11 · update #1
With my kids, my rule has always been, that if they're too sick to go to school, then they're too sick to have friends over or go anywhere for the remainder of the day. And if I knew that one of my kids's friends was sick, they certainly wouldn't be going over to their house, either. Sounds like your boss has cooked spaghetti where his/her spine should be. The kid should be having a quiet day, and how is it that he was allowed to rent a video game? The parent should be getting his work from school instead before he gets behind, and when that's done, reading or resting. And they certainly should have supported your decision about not allowing the friend over.
That kids teenage years are gonna be a blast, with permissive parents like that!
2007-11-14 03:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by N L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the writer who said that if you are too sick to go to school, then you should be resting and not playing. The problem is working parents try to compensate for their absence by spoiling the kids. It suddenly becomes a competition for "who can make the child happier" instead of doing whats in the best interest of the child.
I've worked with a family like that, and I can't stand the "you're not the parent" attitude.
Advice: next time try and find a family that has common sense, like the other young boys mom, who came to pick their child up! lol!
But until then, you are just gonna have to follow the rules, no matter how much they aggravate you.
2007-11-15 12:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by GB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I don't see rewarding someone for being sick. Home again today, seems like these ppl need a little more oversight into what their son is doing. Looks to me like he has learned he can get away with a lot more then he should. When i was home sick it was bedroom and bed only. No games, just books and mom made sure i got all my homework too. NO way i would have been allowed to play video games if i was home sick. Bet he wouldn't be sick so often if being home sick was no fun.
2007-11-14 11:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by j m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been a nanny, too. I've had a couple of long road trips recently and have been listening to the book The Nanny Diaries on CD. You will laugh your azz off! It is SO true of so many nanny experiences... and it may help you grit your teeth for another day and look at this situation with a sense of humor... That is, if you're not comfortable confronting the parents of the 9 year old, which IS an option, too.
2007-11-14 11:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its common sense not to have a friend come over if the kid is sick.
the only way my mother would let someone come over when i was sick was when i sprained my ankle, and i'm about to have sugury on my knee in a few days. she's going to let people come over then b/c is not contageous.
you should check the 9 year old's throat, temperature and everything and say "see, he's not sick"
and if he says he has a stomach ache or something be like "okay, but you still need to go to school, here, take some cod liver oil."
i'm sure he'll be feeling better instantaniously. lol
2007-11-14 12:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by xchristian_beautyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, you don't have to agree with the family's rules but you do have to follow them. Whenever I was sick as a child, my mom didn't allow any friends over because I was supposed to be resting and didn't want to get my friends sick too. I guess you're stuck. Good luck!
2007-11-14 11:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's BS. Just another case of parents who are afraid of saying NO to their kids.
My DH used to do this. His son would have a "sick" day and then DH would let him go out and play later! I file it under divorce guilt.
I always think it's kind of a mistake to make sick days too fun or even a reward-I mean, it kind of encourages hookie playing, don't you think?
2007-11-14 11:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're right!! If he was so sick he shouldn't be having company or playing. If his parents are too blind too see that. Don't worry about it. Just keep getting paid!!
Good Luck
2007-11-14 11:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tha Blessed One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of a teacher I had who always used to say "If you're well enough to write a story, you're well enough to come to school."
2007-11-14 12:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by dumbuglyweirdo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to agree just follow
2007-11-14 13:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by **mmm** 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋