what should i do? *women only*?

Question

ok im lost in what to do about a friend. weve been friend for about three years and have kinda come close to dating before but just didnt work out becasue of other things. a while back i asked her what she thought and she gave me the "i dont want to ruin our friendship thing" but i asked her about it at a prety stupid time. anyway shes been dating this guy for a while who shes now in love with , but i can tell that shes not happy. she tells me EVERYTHING about her and her relationship with him and things that piss her off that he does and their problems. my question is. over the past few months. ive really fallen for her. and i know i coulkd be a 10x better boyfriend to her becasue i know so much about her. One time about 2 months back she asked me "if me and you ever hooked up, how far do u think it would go??" just that she asked that makes me think that im in the back of her head. I just dont know if i still am. I want to tell her how i feel but i think i should wait. wht shuld i do

Answer 1

She tells you everything about her life because she trusts you. trust is a great thing. Say, "remember when you asked about us hooking up? I've thought about it, and this is how far we'd go.........................".
Just throw that option out there. But don't be suprised if she doesn't reciprocate immediately since she's in the new relationship. If she tells her current bf that you have designs for her, she may end up distancing herself from you....to be kind to her new bf.
But you'll still be in the back of her mind.......and at that point, distance might be just what you need for awhile.
She'll miss your friendship. Just let her know, you'll always be there for her and to call anytime.
I'd put it all "out there," life is too short.
Good Luck~

Answer 2

I was in similar situation with a guy that I was friends with for about 6 years. I talked to him about everything and vice versa this guy was the perfect guy for any woman I think that he probably could not keep a girlfriend because he was not at all the aggressive type and some women love for a man to be a little aggressive he was everything I wanted in a man but just like her I continued to fool with these butts and I really didn't want to loose him as a friend. He is now in a serious relationship and I am still fooling with a butt and very unhappy. I regret not making a move with this guy. I think you should at least tell her how you feel. I hope it works out 4 U!

Answer 3

This is what happens with women. Rarely do we say "Oh, everything's going great, we're so much in love" because there's nothing to talk about beyond that. Usually we say "We got in a fight over this, and he did this, and I was mad" because then we get feedback. Best friends share these kinds of things, and you're like that with her.

You can tell her if you want to, but if she's really in love with this guy, it's not going to do any good - in fact, it may make her stay away from you. I'd keep it to myself; she's off limits because she has a boyfriend. I'm sure she's in the back of your head, but don't ruin your friendship with her. She needs you as a friend, and if it's meant to be, it will happen. Just be patient, be happy to be with her when you can, and wait.

Answer 4

I think that you too are friends first and as a friend who is now in love with her you should come completely clean with her about it because the worse that can happened is not nothing changes. I don't think that she will take it in a bad way if you tell her about your feeling is all about bringing it up at the right place and time. There nothing wrong with finding out how she feels about you. Just don't let any un excepted results ruin your friendship.

Answer 5

Sometimes, fate only gives us what we need. In this case, she doesn't need you right now as a more than a friend. But push fate and tell her EXACTLY how you feel right now. If she accepts you and wants more, great. If not, realize that life is too short to wait around for another person to match your feelings. Even though you don't want to think about it, there is someone else out there that you can fall in love with and will feel the same about you. Remember, you deserve to be happy.

I used to be in love with this guy for YEARS and but he didn't feel the same about me. Finally, I made a decision to move on. Unexpectantly, I ended up finding someone else who (I think) is better and loves me as well. The funny thing is that now, that guy I used to be in love with, is in love with me and keeps re-hashing "If I could only go back in time....". Now, I don't think I would fall in love with this guy even if I was single because I feel I matured emotionally since then. Dating him would be like going back to a cold room. Good Luck!

Answer 6

How do you know she's not happy?Why don't you ask her how she really feels about her guy to be sure.You could be honest with her and tell her how you feel.If she's that nice a girl then she'll still be friends with you even if she doesn't share your feelings.Are you sure she's not just flirting with you and enjoying the attention of two guys?At least if you tell her how you feel and she stays with her boyfriend then you know where you stand and can concentrate on finding a decent girl for yourself!

Answer 7

well, if she asked you that, then she's thinking of you as a boyfriend, but you shouldn't say anything to her at the moment about you and her. Its not the right time and the only thing you can do right now is be supportive about her current relationship and tell her that you don't think this guy is treating her right and you think she deserves someone better, but don't go on and on about it, just causally hint

Answer 8

I think she likes you back but doesnt want to ruin the great friendship that you guys seem to have and i think that you should keep being such a good friend to her and letting her confide in you and eventually she will realize that your the good guy she should be with but be sure to take it slow because its not good to rush into things and let it ruin your friendship

Answer 9

At this point, it sounds like she needs you to be there as a friend. You should be there for her, but don't be pushy about a serious relationship, because that might make things awkward for you both. Just be there, and maybe you'll eventually be able to see if a relationship would work out.

Answer 10

Try this test: Tell her you want to continue being friends but you do not want to listen to or advise her on her problems with her BF. See if you remain friends. It is a thankless task to have someone who has rejected you romantically using you to cry on your shoulder. Start meeting new girls and get out there and have fun.