i've been with my boyfriend for 3 months, and these last 2 weeks its been fight after fight. anyways, about a week ago, i broke up with him (in a bad way) and we were over. then 2days later, i talked to him to try to work things out,. He told me that when we broke up he had kissed another girl in skool for revenge, he told me there was no feelings and w.e, but never wanted to tell WHO the girl was? (i told him i wasnt gonna fight her or anything)so today i decided to confront him and if he didnt tell me who she was then we were gonna have ot brake up. I couldnt continue on with the curiousity. He cussed me out and tsated screaming, and decided NOT to tell me. Is he hiding something...or am i overacting?
2007-11-14 03:25:25 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with him like you promised.
Show integrity.
I'm sure that very soon after you'll find out who it was that he kissed.
2007-11-14 03:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
What is he hiding? He already told you he kissed someone and you guys were broken up, so it really isn't any of your business. When you 'break up' with someone, that means you aren't together anymore. You aren't a couple.
I'm not surprised he started screaming - you sound about as mature as a 12 year old and just about as big of a pain in the butt.
Grow up a little. If you don't want your boyfriend seeing other people, then don't break up with him. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you are so great that he is going to sit around pining away over you - that probably isn't the case.
2007-11-14 03:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems to me that your boyfriend feels bad for what he did and you finding out who the girl is is not going to make him feel any better. And, let's be honest, you know that you won't be able to keep quiet when you see this girl.
People talk too, so eventually you will find out anyway. Give your bloke a break this time, after all, you were broken up at the time. Tell him love and trust go together and if he breaks your trust once its over. good luck x
2007-11-14 03:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question would be why does it bother you so much? Is knowing going to make things better or worse..and I'd probably worse. If you can't trust him then you need to end it. There is never an excuse for cheating, and in my opinion real men don't cheat. It's your call, but you knowing will only drive you more nuts. Then you'll be comparing yourself to her or wondering if he's thinking of her or if he'd rather be kissing her. Me, I'd break up with him if I didn't feel I could trust him, not on the basis of a suspicion.
2007-11-14 03:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Hillary J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't together when he kissed another girl so no, technically it wasn't cheating. And you have no business knowing who the girl was; is that going to accomplish anything? Is it going to make you feel better? The likely answer to those questions is no. There's no reason you need to know who the girl was; he said it meant nothing and you weren't together at the time, so it doesn't matter.
If the two of you are involved in screaming matches like this, I think it'd be better to cut your losses and break up with each other for good.
2007-11-14 03:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. He could very well be hiding something. But, the key to any good relationship is trust and communication. You have to tell him that it bothers you that he won't tell you who the girl is. If the kiss meant nothing, then he has nothing to worry about. I wouldn't break up with him just because he won't tell you though. Trust that he is being faithfull, at least he told you what he did. I hope everything works out for you!
2007-11-14 03:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Emma M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he does outside of the relationship with you (except for sex) is none of your business. Yes, there may be reasons why he doesn't want you to know, but it's not for you to know, and probably for good reason. A lot of people who go into relationships actively try to ignore their partner's past because of the potential to breed contempt and jealousy. That's likely what would have happened if he told you regardless of what you think you'd react with.
But i'd just leave the relationship dead. What kind of idiot starts "screaming and cussing"? That's not someone that's mature enough for a relationship.
2007-11-14 03:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the nicest possible way, youre too young to be bothering with all this! Still in school (so obv younger than 16) and hes hardly gonna be the love of your life after just 3 months so get over it. Who gives a toss who he kissed? It was only a kiss. no wonder he got mad at you
2007-11-14 03:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're overreacting at all. Why would he kiss a girl just out of revenge. You have to think of the near future, if he did this once, I'm sure he will do it again and again everytime you and him have a disagreement.
I don't think you should stress who the girl was. It's not important. What is important is that he kissed her.
He's not worth your time. Move on and find a guy who you're more compatible with. The TRUST is gone.
2007-11-14 03:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♫ ßr0wn Eyǝd G!rl ツ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really NEED to know who it is? It shouldn't make a difference who it was. He said he was sorry - you had broken up - you are lucky to have had a second chance at the relationship. If you keep pestering him you will lose him. If you can't forget about it you probably don't trust him and that is the foundation to any lasting relationship. Learn to trust him or you may as well finish it now.
2007-11-14 03:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nicola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding something. If he really wanted to be with you he wouldnt have to look for someone outside of the relationship for fulfillment. I would say its in your best interest to just move on.
If you were broke up and he kissed a girl then that isnt cheating. However, that action alone shows that he isnt fully committed to your relationship.
Your relationship will never be the same. You will always hold this against him. In my mind its best to move on.
2007-11-14 03:30:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋