What do you do, as a woman, when men stare at you to the point of making you uncomfortable? This happens to me whenever I walk through an area at work where our male production employees are. I mean the continuous, up-and-down, all-over-body-assessing stares. Yesterday a guy turned completely around in his chair as I walked through the room so he could continuously stare!! They are from different cultures; maybe they don't understand how uncomfortable it makes women in this country. I am not drop-dead gorgeous, nor ugly, and I dress very modestly. Sometimes I smile nervously - not a "come-hither" smile - but an awkward, "what the heck do you want?" smile. Is a cold, unsmiling stare back at them better? I don't want to look like a snob. Is there a polite way to stop this kind of thing?
2007-11-14 03:11:26 · 14 answers · asked by Layla 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Uhhh...not walking through the room is not an option...this is my job and I'm required to walk through areas where these men work.
2007-11-14 03:32:14 · update #1
I am sorry they make u uncomfortable try this. The next time they stare at you and you catch them go to them and tell them that you do not like it when they stare and that you noticed them doing it often. If that does not work then you must go to the department head and make a case of this.
2007-11-14 03:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Gubba 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, especially when its forgien men too, who dont know when to stop. By the sounds of it when i first read your question i thought maybe it was the way you dressed, but if you dress modestly i really cant see the problem Though that shouldnt even be the issue on your part, its toally wrong of them to stare at you or any women in such a manner. I do understand that you probably wouldnt want to say anything either as i may cause more problems for you and if your like me too scared to say anything the best thing i can suggest is that you talk to the head of that department in full confidentiality and tell him/her to have a word with all staff about it in general. I don't know which countries these guys are from, but me being asian know that sometimes when you smile at a guy in asian countries they often think it's for the wrong reasons, so its best to just keep your head up high and ignore them. I wouldn't even smile to them at all and so what of they think your snobish, who cares?
2007-11-14 03:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Peace Missile 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. When I was little there was this mean boy that was sitting in front of me and everytime I looked in his direction he told me to stop staring at him, 2 years ago in high school I was day dreaming staring at some kid in class (I had no idea I was staring) and he asked can you stop staring at me? What are you staring at? But was really nice compared to the kid I went to elementary school with.
2016-04-04 00:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it will probably never stop. You are admired! Just don't let your head swell. I know this is hard to deal with, I worked in a factory for years and the whistles started before I even could get up close to them. I had ice threw on me every day just to make my breast get hard. I was upset every day. Finally I got fed up and had to loose my temper and kick some butt. After they realized that I did not like it then they finally calmed down SOME. It will never stop all the way. Just keep your head down when you walk and maybe they will get the picture. Best of luck dear.
2007-11-14 03:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, call them out... Smiling sends moron men the wrong signal. You should just ask, " you need something"or ask "Do I have ink on my shirt because you're starring at it?"
Or do what I do, just stare forward and walk.. Don't make eye contact..
Last thing, which could be kinda funny.. Take a picture of yourself and make a few copies. Next time someone stares you down, walk up to them autograph it and hand them the picture... If they ask what its for, tell them they can stare at that from now on..
Oh and really the last thing... Report them if it gets out of control.. You don't deserve to be gawked at..
2007-11-14 03:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
U can always say what are u staring at do I have spinach in my teeth.
In high school I once said to my own homeroom which was staring at me stop staring at me. After that nobody stared.
2007-11-14 04:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you walk through and they are making obvious eye contact or turn to watch you, I would confront them by asking them if they need something.And, if they anything other than work related, i would report them to my boss.
2007-11-14 03:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs. V is right. If you are feeling uncomfortable in your workplace, it's harassment.
2007-11-14 05:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely take it to HR. if they're making your uncomfortable with stares, etc. that's sexual harrassement. they have to follow work rules, regardless of their culture, so discuss it with a manager or something & if it doesn't stop you need to take the concern to human resources.
2007-11-14 03:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
When you catch them staring, just look at them directly in the eye and ask "Can I help you with something?"
2007-11-14 03:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by jmiller 5 · 12⤊ 0⤋