Girlfriend was raped awhile back?

Question

My girlfriend and I went on a break about a month ago now ago because she was raped two years ago when we did not know each other and she is struggling with it now, She said she can not handle a relationship right now. She just told her family and I. I have given her, her space like she asked for. I wrote her two emails one saying how much she means to me and how Im here for her and another with some prayers to say. I know her sister pretty well and I have talken to her about my girlfriend and she told her (my girlfriend) I asked how she was doing and from what i heard she seemed to like it. Over the weekend I got a drunk email from my girlfriend saying she loves me and hates me forever. What do you think this means Am I just wasting my time waiting for her. We ended things really well. She responded to one of my emails but not the pray one. Am i just looking to much into this? Any advice would help

Answer 1

Wow

It means she was drunk and she loves you ... but she's hurting and she hates that.

Sounds like she's got a lot of issues and is not up to handling a relationship right now.

I guess it depends a bit on how much you love her and what you want to do?

If you want to move on, now is a good time to do it.

If you want her, email her - let her know. See if you can talk to her sister and get sis to pass a message on. You'll be waiting a while, but you would need to know that you're going to have to wait and then do a lot of work.

It's fixable, but it'll be tedious and difficult. If you really love her, then maybe that's what you'd have to do.

Most guys would move on.

Answer 2

Drunk emails tend to be raw and truthful but need interpretation. I agree that she probably loves you but hates what she is going through right now.

It's hard to deal with rape and the emotional scars. If you are willing to be there for her through the process then that's great. She needs to be willing to deal with everything she is going through. She should get into counseling and get some professional help. The fact that you are even thinking about staying around to help her through this is a great sign.

Answer 3

That's tough..and unfortunately their are thousands of women around the world that are going through the same thing. Yes I encourage you to continue to pray for her, that she realizes that it's not her fault...and unforgiveness toward the person that raped her is causing bitterness towards all men, and perhaps when she see's a man it reminds her of being raped (just a guess). Ask God to heal her emotional and mental wounds, b/c only God can completely heal her but she has to turn to Him, and also forgive herself. To run from the pain she's turning to alcohol and maybe even drugs, when she should be turning to Jesus Christ. Right now it's not about being her boyfriend/ and her being your girlfriend, but it's about being there for her, through thick and thin. Then in the long run she will realize how much you love her b/c of your faithfulness of being their for her, and that will speak volumes. You must realize that she probably feels worthless, dirty, violated, hurt, etc... and their maybe something physical that reminds her of these things. I encourage you to encourage her to turn to Jesus Christ.

Answer 4

someone who is drunk is prbably telling the truth.. but their emnotions are most like ly SHOT. I had a guy friends who cried his eyes out when he told someone he liked them and she rejected him. Its just wierd. The fact that she was drunk shows that she is trying toi numb the pain.. NOT good. She needs you,. But be careful.. you might find yourself being lost along the way.
i hope everythihng goes ok with you and your problem

Answer 5

Do yourself the biggest favor of your entire life and stay away from this girl. This will only lead to bad things. Stop all contact with her. No communication. Leave this alone trust me. Move forward with your life NOW. Don't wait.