We are having a small-ish church wedding in January. My family is very religious and won't touch alcohol, whereas my fiance's family knows how to party with the best of them. (We are both middle of the road)
So I was thinking of having a simple cake and punch reception at the church right after the ceremony. (Say an hour or two), then everyone that wants to party, can come to the 2nd reception at his parent's house where there will be music and alcohol.
What do you think about having 2 receptions?
2007-11-14 03:02:19 · 23 answers · asked by luckgirl924 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am in the process of planning my own wedding and I know how hard it can be to accomodate everyone!
I actually think this is a great idea, and a good way to make everyone happy, as long as it is what you both want to do.
Just remember that it is your day, not your families. While I'm sure you want to please your families and have everyone enjoy themselves, it is about the two of you and what will make you happy!
Best of Luck & Congratulations!
2007-11-14 03:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Nichole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a great idea! It would keep both sides of the family happy and everyone will have a good time. I would just make sure that the 2nd reception stays in line. If his family likes to party, you may want to consider having a cut off as far as the bar goes. Open bars can get really expensive, but you can tell the bar once you've hit a certain amount, to stop serving. Or, you can tell them to stop serving after a few hours. That way you don't have to deal with any belligerent drunks.
The only issue I see with doing 2 receptions is the grand exit. Would you do that twice? I'm sure your family wants to be present for that.
2007-11-14 11:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is EXACTLY what we are doing, my fiance and I are huge into family and dont want to upset anyone, besides that we have a few older guest and lots of people coming in from out of town. So our plan is a regular reception with cake and food, and then the out of town guest and older guest can decide if they would rather go and go home or back to the hotel or go to my MOH house and thats where the music and alcohol will be. I have had a few people tell me that its a dumb idea but I want it to be a joyous occasion on all parts I dont want people to feel like they have to drink or they cant drink. Which is what you are going through at this time. SOO.... In another words GO FOR IT!!!! Plus its what you and your fiance want, if people dont like it then oh well dont come to the wedding hee hee.
2007-11-14 13:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by I am Mrs. H! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been to a couple weddings like that and they were the most fun I've ever had at a wedding. They had cake and punch at the church and then everyone left a couple hours later to go to an inexpensive community hall for dancing and appetizers. The guests in attendance at each agreed on how they liked that setup better than what is usually done.
2007-11-14 11:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. I just got married in October and I had the same problem as you... My family aren't BIG on drink and don't care to be around it much... His family doesn't mind as a matter of fact his dad owns a BAR.. so what I did was right after the wedding I rented the hall at the church from noon-3p... where we had... food and cake the first dance and all that fun stuff... and who ever wanted to come could and the from 4p-whenever we went out to his dad's bar and had an open bar... that way both sides we satisfied and so were we!!!!!!!!!1
2007-11-14 14:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing the typical reception things at the first one? Many people will want to see the first dance and things of that sort. If your wedding is early in the day, it makes sense not to serve alcohol at the early reception. Be sure to invite everyone to the 2nd one, even if they do not want to "party", they don't want to feel left out either.
2007-11-14 11:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
GO for it,,It is your day,,,Who says there should only be one party ,,Its a BIG DEAL and do what ya want when ya want and with who ya want...GOOD LUCK!
By the way,,I had 2 ,,,We had only friends and family and very close relatives at the church service and a reception after and since no friends of the parents were invited they had a huge bash for us when we got home from our honeymoon..We had as much fun and were less stressed out and well rested at that one,,,and we DID get alot more gifts ,,and we needed so much stuff we didn't live together and we were young...so it helped us alot,,and we have fond memories of them both..Lots of our friends got invited to both so it was double fun for them too...
2007-11-14 11:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Eileen J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to your and your wallet. I personally would just have a dry wedding with a get together at a bar after the reception, but that's me.
Your idea is good ONLY if you do all of the wedding reception stuff at the church, with everyone present.
2007-11-14 11:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going thru the same thing.. my fiance wants a blow out bash in the back yard bonfire, tents and people waking up on our lawn... I refuse. It is really hard. We are now thinking of having a reception, normal one, and then a few weeks later a huge get together at our house. It might work.
2007-11-14 11:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by bbpip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in this case. Invite the same people to the ceremony and one reception. Then they can decide whether to have alcohol, dance, etc.
2007-11-15 08:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋