How do I handle my 7 year old daughter??

Question

My daughter is 7 going on 17 real quick. Her dad is in the Army and is not here alot of times. She gets real mouthy, has a bad attitude, and acts like she is all high and mighty. She has also informed me that she doesn't need school, because she already knows everything she needs too. What do I do with her????

Answer 1

Firm boundaries,
Strict consequences
AND BEING CONSISTENT

Decide how far is to far for her, explain what you will and won't allow anymore, then explain what consequences she will get for breaking those rules. As for a consequence that works for children at this age - Like the other poster said, a spanking on the bare bottom. He may have been joking, but that's exactly what my 8 year old got just last night. Spanking isn't PC anymore, but lets face it, a good consequence is one that will change her mind before those nasty words come out. Why, cuz she's not dumb, she will prefer her bottom stay the same color, rather then being turned red. May sound harsh, but I can tell you from experience spanking (if done this way) WORKS.

Answer 2

HAHAHHAHAHAH Louie you are a genius!!!!! I so am going to do that homework thing with my 6 year old who thinks her stuff don't stink.
As far as the actual question goes.....i wish I could help ya, but I am going through the same darn thing and I am not in a position to give you advice. I do know spanking doesnt work, neither does the grounding thing or taking away privelages.....I have tried them all and my daughter could care less. BUT every child is different so it may work on yours. Either way I love the homework answer....absolutely genius!!! Good Luck to you all!!!

Answer 3

Wow, 7 year old girls can be tough. Mine just turned 8, so I understand. What seems to work best with me is not getting upset by her power plays and not giving in to them. Quietly and consistently let her know she will not get anywhere with you by behaving like that. I'm sure she has things she wants and that are important to her, so use those as consequences or rewards. Mine really likes to get me upset sometimes, lets her know she's in control; sometimes I have to walk away to regain composure before I get angry.

It will be a war, but don't give in. Try to schedule some mom and daughter time too. Some of this could be stress about her dad. I wish you all the best and make sure your husband knows there are people out there who really appreciate his sacrifice.

Answer 4

I have always used the law to explain to my kids why they had to go to school and follow rules. Always do what is right as a good example for her and ask no less from her. Find a good church and seek out any family members or neighbors who could help reinforce morals and rules you set.
Finally, she has many privileges that may be taken away for bad behavior and could be earned back. During quiet times together start gentle conversations regarding any missteps she has had, especially where she abused or hurt you. You have feelings, too. Good luck

Answer 5

Sounds like she's pushing to see exactly where you are going to tell her to stop! She's searching for that line that's not supposed to be crossed. You know... where's the limit that I can push my budding individuality to? She's going to keep pushing toward that limit until you, as her parent, let her know exactly where the limit of a 7 year old little girl should be. You are the parent and decision maker. She needs to know that in no uncertain terms, and it has to be consistent. She'll look for any loophole to jump through if you give her one.

Answer 6

high and mighty eh, love them kids.
Go on the internet and find some school work sheets from say grade 5 level, math, spelling, science,etc. sit her down and get her to do them. shouldnt be hard since "she knows everything". tell her that if she can finish them and get all the answers right, she can drop out of school, if she dosnt get them all right, she goes to school.
also, as far as the attitude goes, you gotta ground her, take away her belongings untill her attitude gets better, my 6 year old is doing this now with me, back talking, pouting etc. she is officially grounded till it gets better, including missing her most prized possesion,,, figure skating.

Answer 7

little ones desire and thrive on policies, policies, schedules and self-discipline. you are the be sure. sit down her down and clarify what you will tolerate and could no longer. clarify if she breaks a rule what effect would be and persist with with the aid of. She is seeing what she would be in a position to wreck out with and what you will only provide in to. The previous asserting spare the rod and destroy the youngster incorporates innovations. you ought to provide her a spanking or wash mouth out with cleansing soap or jalapeno peppers. She desires self-discipline. you ought to take administration of undertaking. eliminate all toys, television and priviledges til she learns ideal habit. She additionally desires chore chart, as she must be contributing to enjoyed ones.....there'll be no bruises in case you do no longer abuse her. A spanking on the bum, perplexing, to get her interest works wonders, as does loss of each and every thing she values, toys, priviledges, etc. whilst she hits you or kicks you, restrain her firmly and in a stern voice clarify it is unacceptable and is no longer tolerated. clarify you recognize frustration, yet it is existence. Then make her sit down quietly (no conversing, n o faces, no crying, no whining, no longer something) til you're saying so. Make her stay till she would be in a position to earnings self administration. at the same time as she sits eliminate toys/television in spite of it quite is and clarify why and how that is earned back. you ought to take administration and gain this now......this can't proceed.

Answer 8

I would go to this site to get some more advice
pediatrics.about.com
Parenting is very hard especially if you are the main parent
I had to raise 3 children after there dad died and it was tough. The main thing I did if they didn't listen to rules is to take away privileges ,tv, phone, ect.... Sticking to the rules most of the time helps. Good luck,

Answer 9

She is missing the discipline her dad would normally give, follow the woman ahead of me and start using spanking. Also she's right, no pants works better I've never admitted to spanking that way, because of all the tree huggers then again just look at their kids. nuff said.

Answer 10

Firm consistent discipline - discipline, meaning "to teach and guide" not necessarily to punish. Read between the lines of what she is saying. Maybe something is bothering her at school that she doesn't want to be there. Ask her "how does she feel" and "what do you think you should do" questions to draw her out. Maybe she is angry because Daddy is not there and she is acting out.