My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 13 months. Lately we've been having a lot of fights (we used to never fight!) I'm freaked out because we had never talked about breaking up before. He seems cold and careless but says that he loves me and cant see himself without me.
how can i make our relationship better? I dont want this to be it....im scared of what might happen next...
2007-11-14 02:34:58 · 16 answers · asked by clarissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really dont want this to be over, but sometimes i feel like im the only one fighting for us.
2007-11-15 06:52:03 · update #1
Give up. Fighting requires two sides mad at each other - obviously you're not meant for each other.
2007-11-14 02:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He can't see himself without you because he's been with you the last 13 months. But saying he loves you and can't see himself without you, while acting cold and careless, sounds too manipulative to me. I don't believe there's anything you can do to make the relationship better unless maybe it's going to couples counseling. You can always go alone, but it's better if you both go. If he isn't willing, then I think that's an obvious clue that you should move on quickly.
It's a shame to do that, since you've been together so long, but continuing to fight is just so not worth it, and I think he wants out of the relationship.
2007-11-14 10:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you both desire to be together you both can make it work. Talk about what you are fighting about and how you can resolve it so you don't fight about the same things constantly.I would only give up if both of you cannot come to an agreement because you both have to commit to this relationship. Every relationship hits a rough spot but if it is meant to be it will be and you will get through it. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 3 years and it wasnt all easy it takes work, trust, and commitment.
2007-11-14 10:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Waiting for Madelyn :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fighting isn't always a bad thing. Maybe you guys should spend less time together and have some space. That maybe the problem. i've had that situation before. Try to find the source of the fighting, if its over the same thing then analyze that and see how you can fix that.
It may be worth fighting for but if the bad is now outweighing the good then it may be time to go.
2007-11-14 10:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in some cases it could be that you all are unwillingly, absent mindedly finding things to fight about because... you may be getting tired of each other. I know this. If the problems get out of hand, it may be time to end the relationship and remain friends. It's killer, I know. But you must understand that even if things do not work out with this person in particular, there are billions more out there. It may just not have been meant.
2007-11-14 10:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Instant Kamen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a lot of stress in his life... in yours? If this is a factor then it needs to brought to his attention. Once you both realize that's the reason for the tension, you become more forgiving towards each other, and you realize the fights are not because you genuinely dislike each other but just because your fuses are temporarily short. Try to talk with him and see what's bothering him.
2007-11-14 10:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Avelyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up!
Every relationships will have there falling outs I mean by that is fighting and stuff!
But you cant give up apparently he does love you and wants things to work out!
I wish you nothing but good luck!
2007-11-14 10:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont give up...youve put 13mos into this...
fights arent fun...but believe it or not they are healthy...as long as they dont get out of hand.
men get cold and careless when they are angry...and alot of the time they dont how to deal with us crying, it makes then feel helpless...which makes them angry b/c they are guys...
just stick with him, let him know that you are feeling a bit sad about this...and ask him if there is anything you can do to make things better...
but dont give up...
2007-11-14 10:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Amber R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is having a hard time. Keep talking to him. Keep telling him how you feel (without nagging) and remeber that you are in the relationship too. it may be time for a break!
2007-11-14 10:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on you. Can you see yourself living the rest of your life with this person? If not move on, you don't live forever. If you can see yourself with him, talk to him about it. Tell him how you are feeling and that if he wants this to work that he is going to have to put effort into making your relationship last.
Good Luck and Best wishes.
2007-11-14 10:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep up the good fight... Watch WWF together..
PS: Wear fistcuffs and a nice strong helmet if need arises..!!!
ALL THE BEST!
2007-11-14 10:40:00 · answer #11 · answered by rufiboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋