I was told that while you are married you cannot pleasure yourself is it not better than cheating? I heard from a pastor that it is wrong in the bible. Can someone help?
2007-11-14 02:05:44 · 8 answers · asked by me 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's your toy... play with it all you want.
Then you'll be ready to pleasure your husband with lots of oral sex.
2007-11-14 03:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the Christian's if you do this and think about someone or sex with someone other than your wife it's a sin. The problem isn't the physical act, it's your thoughts. If you think about your wife then I think it's OK. If you weren't married you wouldn't be allowed to have lustful thoughts about anyone.
It is better than cheating though so IMO have fun. :)
2007-11-14 10:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married or not it is a sin to masturbate. Masturbation is a sin against marriage. The only holy use of sexual gratification is between partners of a holy marriage.
Masturbation itself, not just the thoughts that go along with it, abuses the body of Christ. In baptism Christians become a part of the body of Jesus. Would you masturbate a part of Jesus' body?
He has blessed sexual intercourse in marriage, nowhere else. When two of the opposite sex join together in holy marriage He has joined them into one body until death. These two are a couple. There is no sin when they join their bodies.
It is hard to understand and accept these truths in today's world where masturbation is considered "normal." The world is deceived and full of deceit.
Yours in Christ Jesus
2007-11-14 10:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Masturbation is not sinful until and unless it does harm, repeatedly, and the person doing it is deliberately doing that kind of harm.
Any "pleasuring" of self that goes to an extreme and does harm can be any of the following depending on its level and degree. If you are not talking about masturbation, then you can compare your situation with the following: error, evil, sin, iniquity:
"Evil is the unconscious or unintended transgression of the divine law, the Father's will. Evil is likewise the measure of the imperfectness of obedience to the Father's will.
"Sin is the conscious, knowing, and deliberate transgression of the divine law, the Father's will. Sin is the measure of unwillingness to be divinely led and spiritually directed.
"Iniquity is the willful, determined, and persistent transgression of the divine law, the Father's will. Iniquity is the measure of the continued rejection of the Father's loving plan of personality survival and the Sons' merciful ministry of salvation.
"By nature, before the rebirth of the spirit, mortal man is subject to inherent evil tendencies, but such natural imperfections of behavior are neither sin nor iniquity. Mortal man is just beginning his long ascent to the perfection of the Father in Paradise. To be imperfect or partial in natural endowment is not sinful. Man is indeed subject to evil, but he is in no sense the child of the evil one unless he has knowingly and deliberately chosen the paths of sin and the life of iniquity. Evil is inherent in the natural order of this world, but sin is an attitude of conscious rebellion which was brought to this world by those who fell from spiritual light into gross darkness.
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So, from what you write here, no it is not sinful, but you may possibly have committed some error depending on what your spouse believes, and so you might have cast some sort of stumblingblock...
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Feeling guilty:
"The sense of guilt (not the consciousness of sin) comes either from interrupted spiritual communion or from the lowering of one's moral ideals. Deliverance from such a predicament can only come through the realization that one's highest moral ideals are not necessarily synonymous with the will of God. Man cannot hope to live up to his highest ideals, but he can be true to his purpose of finding God and becoming more and more like him.
Jesus swept away all of the ceremonials of sacrifice and atonement. He destroyed the basis of all this fictitious guilt and sense of isolation in the universe by declaring that man is a child of God; the creature-Creator relationship was placed on a child-parent basis. God becomes a loving Father to his mortal sons and daughters. All ceremonials not a legitimate part of such an intimate family relationship are forever abrogated.
God the Father deals with man his child on the basis, not of actual virtue or worthiness, but in recognition of the child's motivation--the creature purpose and intent. The relationship is one of parent-child association and is actuated by divine love."
2007-11-14 10:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Holly Carmichael 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The Pastor said this because of what he "thinks" that you are "thinking" while you are whacking away!
2007-11-14 10:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Things that are natural to do are not 'wrong'. This is just another thing the bible is totally incorrect about.
2007-11-14 10:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Masturbation is always ok. It doesn't hurt anybody. Just dont do it until it hurts.
2007-11-14 10:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHAT??!!
I cannot BELIEVE some lunatic told you that!!
NO is is NOT a sin!!!!
2007-11-14 10:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Rain 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋