I have been invited to a wedding and in the invitation was a card stating how many people would be attending and that dinner would be $20.00 a plate and to be sent by a certain date. Is this normal? I have seen this one time before years ago. What do you think?
2007-11-14 01:23:57 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think I wouldn't go! Unless I knew the couple was seriously strapped for cash and it's a super small event to begin with.
However, if they are inviting over 50 guests and making people pay, that's just silly!!
2007-11-14 03:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do I think? Honestly? I think that is absolutely the trashiest, tackiest, most classless thing I've ever heard of in my life.
This is what all the "cash-bar-only" and "your-gift-should-equal-the-cost-of-your plate" people should consider doing.
When you host a wedding, you are just that - the host. Your guests are just that - guests, and should be treated as such. People need to live within their means.
If that means your wedding reception is burgers, hot dogs and soda, that's perfectly fine. If it means you serve a sit-down dinner with no alcohol at all, that's fine, too. A wedding is a celebration of a marriage, not an excuse to get free food & booze. But let's be realistic. It's a party. The couple is hosting it, and to host an affair where I'm expected to pay for my food/drinks as a guest is the epitome of tacky.
I'm assuming this couple is expecting gifts, too?
If it were me, I wouldn't attend.
2007-11-14 01:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is a nice gesture to do all of the fore mentioned things, but the truth is people are not made out f money. Yes, traditionally out of towners are invited to the rehearsal dinner, and yes, a wedding brunch is offered the day after the wedding on traditional weddings, and I will give you one more, amenity baskets are also given to out of towners and placed on their hotel rooms. The couple pays. Now, if money is a concern, then you should not get in debt over traditions. At the very least an amenity bag with snacks, maps of the area is the minimum you should do with a hand written personal note from you. On a side note, I,ve always been invited to rd when I travel to a wedding. Good luck
2016-05-23 03:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by kaitlyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They telling you that the dinner would be $20 per plate was quite tacky. Well if that is the case, put a check $50 bucks in a wedding card and call it a day. $20 per plate, where could that be? Where I am from, it would be $100 per plate. So the fact that they had no etiquette and were tacky, is better for you...
2007-11-15 07:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even a child knows, you do not pay for your dinner at a wedding.
I would decline such a wedding invitation. They are probably the kind of people who state on the invitation they want cash as a gift. And they have plenty of money dances, and everything they can think of to hose the guests for more money.
Not my style. And I would not attend the ceremony either. I would not want to associate myself with cheap classless people like this, not even for the "honor" of seeing them get married.
2007-11-14 02:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sleezey! You are being invited to share in their special day and then you are expected to pay for the meal and bring a gift. If they cannot afford to pay for all those people then it is time to cut the guest list!! I don't even know if I would go to this wedding. It depends on how close the person is to you.
2007-11-14 03:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG unheard of!!!!
Are these people homeless, or is there some serious financial crisis that would make this even somewhat acceptable? I mean, did the parents of the bride and groom have some serious health problem or job loss that would make it impossible for them to marry without the charity of their guests? If not, then, OMG.
The only way I could see this is if there was some tragic financial circumstance and the guests are trying to help the couple salvage thier big day.
How badly do you want to attend this wedding?
2007-11-14 01:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by greengo 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think I would decline the invitation...$20.00 might not be that much for some people, but asking guest to pay for their own dinner is down right rude.
2007-11-14 01:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jessi 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No that is not normal. I've never heard of such a thing and no one I know has either. Whoever is paying the catering bill, whether the couple's parents or themselves, pays for everyone. I would refuse to attend even the ceremony if I was required to buy my own dinner and send in a check for it ahead of time.
2007-11-14 02:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have NEVER heard of anything so rude! The reception is supposed to be a party hosted by either the couple and/or their parents. Hosted parties do not have the guests pay. That's an admission ticket, not an invitation. If they can't afford to pay $20 per guest, then they should have a simpler or smaller reception. I am embarassed for them, and I don't even know them!
2007-11-14 01:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋