Ok i need help. Me and my gf have been dating for about 4weeks now.
and we only see eachother 2times a week every week
because we meet at church (and yes we are christians)
we done stuff like hold eachother and hug and hold hands but thats as far it goes, and im not complaining at all!
i enjoy how it is. but (oh yeah) one more thing me and my gf talk to eachother like everyday!! so yeah.
but it seems like she drifting away. like when i say "i love you"
to her.. she doesnt say it back!
i need help. how do i know what she wants? am i doing something wrong? help me out please!
-nic
2007-11-14 01:19:07 · 10 answers · asked by Fire heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say I love you after 4 weeks? That's moving a little fast. Maybe she is a little freaked out by that. Just slow down. Other then the fact that you probably said I love you WAY to early....you haven't done anything wrong. Just enjoy the time you spend with her and take it SLOW!
2007-11-14 01:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by ~irish~moon~star~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but when you say I love you to someone you should really mean it. I know personally as a women I hate it when we have been dating for a little while he tells you I love you. If it is appropriate amount of time and I feel the same way I say it back but if it is not I don't. I don't' think you and your girlfriend are drifting apart. I think maybe she wants to know a lot more about you before she says I love you back.
2007-11-14 09:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jeni_Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Well let me start off by saying congrats on your new relationship!
When you tell her you love her, is it overused? Sometimes a woman (or girl, depending how old you are!) may feel a little pushed or smothered when it comes to a touchy subject such as this. Wait for her to tell you, and if it takes a little longer, wait some more. But don't wait too long, because she may begin to wonder if you still have feelings.
Relationships are complicated, but there are always ways to resolve a minor complication such as this.
Good Luck!
Vanessa
2007-11-14 09:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by vmiller862 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you guys have only been together for 4 weeks, it may be a bit too fast for her to accept "I love you" from you. It will definitely take some time for her to feel secured and wholeheartedly comfortable abt the whole issue. She may not be drifting apart but she must be needing some time to respond. Im my opinion, as a girl myself, it took me almost 2 years to accept my boyfriend and to be honest even now (4 years), i only feel that i am 85% secured with him.
2007-11-14 09:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mermaid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit saying i love you. i assume that you're young, so being in love only one month into a relationship is ridiculous. you may be infatuated with her because she is such a mystery (because you dont know her that well) but work on your friendship. the best relationships grow out of friendships so quit worrying about love. get to know her, even if it is only over the phone/internet. eventually you will grow to love anyone that is in your life for a long period of time. thats where you want to be. in love with the person, not in love with the facade. (are you also one of those couples who spend 2 hours on the phone but dont really say anything? that doesnt count as getting to know the person)
2007-11-14 09:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not ready to say I love you. 4 weeks is WAYYYY too soon to know if you love someone or not. You probably just have some sort of "lust" for her. Don't ask her to say she loves you back after such a short time, that is ignorant and psycho.
2007-11-14 09:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 weeks is a short time to start saying i love you, she prolly doesnt feel ready to say that, you and her to get to know each other a little more
2007-11-14 09:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask her how she feels. Make sure she thinks things are going good..... Try telling her she means alot to you (without saying "I love you") and see what she has to say. If she is losing intrest, then her answer to how she thinks things are going should give it away. HTH
2007-11-14 09:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your doing something worng you told her that you loved her and you have only been dating 4 weeks! give it some time and don't come on so strong
2007-11-14 09:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by fantasticfreddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u a b it ch she dont love your punk a ss. she wants me!!! lol no seriously she wants me im a real man
2007-11-14 09:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋