2007-11-14 00:43:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend won't hit or make you feel bad about yourself because you are special. Girl get a grip on yourself. If he has abused girls in the past, he is likely to do the same to you. In less he has been in therapy for years and has hit an epiphany, he isn't likely to change over night. Most abused women enable their abuser by making excuses for them: I said the wrong thing, wore the wrong thing, or did the wrong thing. I've taught my daughter, "NO SECOND CHANCES!" If a guy physically or mentally abuses you, you leave him. Men who abuse you; don't love you; they want to control you. Fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me. God bless.
2007-11-14 01:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you cannot believe that he will not abuse you. You can however believe that he will try to not abuse you. But someone like that needs help with their aggression and should seek counselling. Once he has done that and you go to a counselling session or two with him then maybe you can start to trust that it may just be a thing of his past. But honestly even that doesn;t work for all people. You would most likely be better off finding someone without that type of history.
2007-11-14 09:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, What makes u that different from other girls? Not saying that u may not have some better qualities (we all are unique) but I am saying the change HAS to come from within him....How has he machored since his past relationships.? Has he had counseling? And usually abusive guys suffer from low self esteem, has he dealt with that any.....It's not YOU that's going to change him-YOU didn't make him abusive & u unfortunatly can't stop him-you can lead him in the right direction to get help but he has to want it foREAL
2007-11-14 08:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm if he has done it to past girls he might just very well do it to you. He probably told the other girls what he just told you ' I'm not going to hurt you' So if I were you I wouldn't even bother having a relationship with him because you might end up getting hurt. But you give it a try if you want...
2007-11-14 08:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,since he's already told u that he's abused other girls in the past,i guess u can place some trust on him,but u have to be very careful wen dealing with these kind of ppl.
2007-11-14 08:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe him. As much as you love him and as hard as it could be, he obviously is dangerous. Im not saying people don't change. Im saying it's hard and rare. You never know when he will "snap" and get to that point where it gets physical. And if you are already too emotionally involved when this happens, it will make leaving him so much harder. I would get out now.
2007-11-14 08:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Snapdragon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you said he has abused girlS plural, so no. He probably told all the ones after the first girl he abused that he would never abuse them either.
2007-11-14 08:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by louiebraile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see flags, red flags everywhere. Of course he says he won't hurt you. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. I'd have to pass on this person!
2007-11-14 08:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. People with a history of violence don't just up and decide not to do it any more. The next time you p iss him off, watch out! And if he does touch you, EVER, for ANY reason, leave immediately.
2007-11-14 08:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe him this happened to my sister she got married with the guy he abused her every day until he got arrested for something.
2007-11-14 08:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋