Should my wife and I get another dog right now or wait.?

Question

On Monday we lost our 6yr old rottie to lymphoma cancer , 9/19/07 we lost our 16yr old sharpei , she had a hart desease . It's tough losing them both so soon . Now our house seems emty with out a pet to come home to. My wife don't now if she want's a pup so quick, I don't think she can handle if something went wrong . What do you all think . THX

Answer 1

It comes down to pain / pleasure

think of all the pleasure that you have gotten from your dog,
the waging tail, the best friend feeling, the playing, and the funny things they do. Pleasure

Think of lossing them , the pain of them getting sick , the feeling of walking in to the vet with your dog and walking out with just a calor. Pain

Why does it cause so much pain to lose your pet.....because of the pleasure your pet gave you.

If you had a cat and hated cats and the cat died, ..would it cause you as much pain? No? Thats because there was no great pleasure from having the cat.

Your dog like all dogs are angles that help us out in life, there the friend that never judges and always loves us. Your dog would be honored by you feeling pain ,because that means he touch you and gave you extreme pleasure.

So if you had of avoided the pain of losing your dog and had not got him or her in the first place, how much pleasure would you have missed out on? How many smiles, and laughs and proud feeling you would have not felt, just to avoid the pain in the end....?

See where im going..... By not getting another dog to avoid the pain of some day losing him or her, means that your giving up being touch by another angel and giving up alot of love and fun.

How good it would feel to have a new puppy , stairing at you, waging his tale because he has a new dad or mom.

Dont give up that pleasure.

Answer 2

This is a hard time for you and I am sorry you are having to go through it. Make sure you are in agreement. My husband tried to surprise me one time after I lost my beloved Maltese w/a similar dog. I wanted her to be the same and it just never worked. I found her a good home who adored her and was ready for something different of my own in just a few months. As we have gotton older I no longer take on puppies at all if it can be avoided (we rescue and live in the country so sometimes they get dumped on us). Maybe find a local rescue or humane society and do some volunteer work - they are always in need of extra hands to groom, play and walk. You might just find the perfect companion but in the meantime it will fill some of the void you are feeling. LOL

Answer 3

Find your local adoptions and start visiting. Go with no intention to adopt just to meet and greet the dogs. Maybe take a small bag of meaty treats to give them a treat. The dogs love the attention and it will make you and your wife feel better showing you care for the homeless.

Don't jump into anything right away. The one that is meant for you that needs you just as you need him or her will be there one day waiting for you. The one you won't be able to turn your back on. IT may be months from now and it will be hard to turn your back on the ones that are there so be sure you are at a no kill adoption like petsmart. Knowing they are all safe makes it a much easier to wait for the one that needs you the most.

Answer 4

I believe you need to follow your heart. If your wife doesnt think she could handle a puppy right now, then dont get a puppy. There are a lot of older dogs that are available at dog rescues around the country.

If it were me, I would take time to mourn the loss of the loved pet. This will also give you time to think about what you actually want from your next pup and how much you want to deal with (housebreaking, teething, etc).

My condolences on your loss.

Answer 5

I would just talk to her. Some people need time to mourn over their pets. But if your house feels empty, then maybe you are both ready for another loved one. There are so many animals in need of homes right now. Maybe you could foster a pet until you decide. Then if it doesn't work out you could give the pet back to the shelter. But if you fall in love then you could adopt. Good Luck and I am sorry about your loss.

Answer 6

I am sorry for your losses.
This is something only you and your wife can answer.
All I can advise is keep teh line of communication open and talk it over.
Everyone is different I myself always got a now pup within a week but ohters can't handle it for some even years.
I hope everything will work out and a new pup will find a long and happy life with you and your wife whenever the time is right.


PUT ME TO REST

Time to let me go my friend,
Because my life no-one can mend,
Its better to let me go this way,
Than watch me suffer night and day.

I'm happy to go, my time has come,
My quality of life is no longer fun,
Ive been so ill, so its not a bad thing,
To let me go forever resting.

Stay with me till I drift away,
Fast asleep forever I pray,
To relieve me from suffering and pain,
What more can I ask from my best friend.

Don't be sad, I'll be free from pain,
Never to be ill ever again,
I know you'll miss me being there,
But all the memories you have to share.

Thankyou for being my best friend,
And all my needs that you did tend,
Try not to be sad, try not to cry,
Now's the time to say GOODBYE PUT ME TO REST



This may help I know they are already gone but I love this poem and think it might help.

Answer 7

I would wait, I made the mistake (although I love the pup very much) by rushing to get another. On 10/1, I lost my 1yr 4month old rottie under the care and custody of a reputable opthamologist here in NJ. Simple eyelid procedure. The vet requested that she spend the night to be observed so she did not "paw" at her stitches. I reluctantly agreed. She was never watched, that jerk called me the next a.m. on 10/2 and told me she was dead from hanging herself. I am still not right from it, been 6 weeks 2 days since I saw my Betsy alive. The next week I got another pup, did not give myself enough time to grieve...and have a HUGE responsibility to a new baby. Think about it carefully...I did not. Again, don't misunderstand me, I love this new pup very much, but I am sure you know the work that is involved.

Answer 8

Give it some time. In time when you both grieve the loss of your dogs then you can start searching for a dog. You just lost your one dog and it is pretty hard to lose a pet.
In time she will probably want another dog but, right now she and you both need to grieve the loss of your dogs.

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of both of your dogs.

Just be there for your wife and in time she may come around and want another dog but, right now she isn't ready. So don't rush into getting a dog. Give it some time.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry for yall's loss...it is hard to lose a pet, I'm sure even harder to lose two so soon.

We really can't tell you whether another dog is ideal for you two right now or not. That's a decision only you can make. I will suggest that you two go down to your local shelter just to "look," and see if maybe you really are ready. You and your wife may see a dog there that just HAS to come home with you. Best of luck!

Answer 10

Hummm it's a hard one, probably wait till you are both ready, losing pets can be very hard but getting a new little friend can also bring soo much happiness. Just talk about it and don't let anyone else tell you what to do, you will know when it is time everyone is different. Good luck.