What is the difference between a genuine good guy that all the girls want and the "Mr Nice Guy" who end up in the Friendzone?
2007-11-13 23:30:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's an interesting distinction you've made. Most guys like this usually say why don't girls like the "nice guy". Yes, I like it, good guy and nice guy.
I think nice guy is usually more of a suck up. He's swallowing his own anger. He's pretending to be interested sometimes when he's not. He doesn't stand up for his own needs. He does this mainly because he's trying to make magic happen. He's trying to take an aloof girl and turn her into someone who loves him, because he's still trying to please his impossible to please mother. And he imagines that if he can turn this girl around then he can somehow find the key to his mother's heart. I think this is why they often times end up in the "friendzone". Not really because there's anything about being nice that turns a girl off, although this is a part of it. It's mostly because they choose unavailable women, either they're emotionally unavailable or scared of intimacy or they are already married or in a relationship.
The good guy is one who is in touch with his own feelings, and can therefore relate and empathise with hers. He's not always happy with her and doesn't always agree with her but he knows he's happier with her than without. Because he understands his own feelings he knows when he's likely to be hurting others, and can understand others needs better too. He's naturally compassionate and caring towards others because he's compassionate and caring towards himself. He doesn't fancy himself as perfect and doesn't expect this from others either.
2007-11-16 08:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good guys are defined characteristically perfect...he exudes the qualities of what girls are really looking for, a bonus on his looks but mostly his attitude...while a nice guy is the guy who stands as a next door comforter, trying to help, a good listener but not necessarily what a girl wants...that is why they say he is nice............
2007-11-13 23:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men and women think differently.
man-speak for "nice" is woman-speak for "weak"
Your behavior indicates to a woman the presence or lack of testicles.
When they tell you who they want, that's their MIND talking (decision made with thoughts, not feelings)
When they decide who to be with, it's their EMOTIONS making that decision (feelings, not thoughts)
in the end, the woman's question to herself is this: "If he isn't strong enough to stand up TO me, how will he ever be strong enough to stand up FOR me ?"
2007-11-13 23:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good guy always gets the last laugh
2007-11-13 23:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by fleur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess good guy dont end up hurting you.
nice guy will hurt you while we ask for it....lol.
2007-11-13 23:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by coffee_tea_or 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a good boy or a bad boy ????
2007-11-13 23:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋