I had a wonderful day, but some things went wrong like the invitation, dress, photographer & a little of how it went. It really bugs me & I still cry over it until today. I know I can't do anything about it, but is there a way how I can forget and get over those big deals?
I know the marriage is more important, but I am a perfectionist, and I questioned my action "Why didn't I do that?"
2007-11-13 19:55:59 · 10 answers · asked by bride's regret 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well you just said you had a wonderful day,so obviously on your wedding day everything did seem to go ok.ls it now, only after looking back that you are finding fault with various things.Does your husband feel the same as you.lt cannot really have been all that serious.Maybe you are just nit picking.You have recently married,now enjoy each others company.get on with life.Have fun and dont make life miserable for youself and your husband.
2007-11-13 20:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby Jane 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think to a certain extent it is somewhat normal to think, "oh I could have done that, instead." But in the end, you just have to let it go. Most likely you are the only one who really noticed those things. Our society is so caught up in appearances and what others think. A wedding is just one day and I don't know anyone's wedding that was perfect. My musicians got lost and did not show up... the ceremony was less that 15 minutes long! But, I look back on it now and I would not trade it because perfection is boring. It is all the funny little quirks and mistakes that make an event interesting and worth telling.
You need to realize you will never make anything perfect, there is no such thing as a perfectionist bc they will never get it there. Instead there are people who waste precious time regretting, instead of realizing how special our lives can really be. As long as you have a good, loving marriage, the wedding served its exact purpose. Really, what is one day compared to a lifetime? If you do this with a lot of things, not just your wedding, I would re-evaluate some things. Simply because you are missing out on so much more.
2007-11-13 20:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by tired 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will fade over time. It is a big day and all your life you are told "it should be perfect". Well life is not perfect. If it really bothers you, have a vow renewal ceremony in a few years and try to do the things you think you should have the first time. My wedding was not at all as I planned, but the marriage has been everything I dreamt of. Be happy to be with your hubby and soon life will give you enough memories that your wedding will be just the first of.
2007-11-13 20:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all well and good dwelling on these things, but let me tell you disasters happen to everyone on their wedding day, things never go according to plan, that's life. You are far from the only one who had things go wrong on them. Start looking at the things that went right rather than depressing yourself with what didn't work. Being a perfectionist is verging on obsessive, you cannot control everything in life!
2007-11-13 20:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So have not got a holiday spot wedding ceremony. you have a small and super wedding ceremony on your place city with in simple terms a similar style of persons who might have attended the holiday spot. no person says you're able to have a blow-out to get married. Get a Justice of the Peace (or despite they're stated as the place you reside), come across a development with a super atrium, dress up somewhat (or plenty) and get married. Have a super meal in the party room in a close-by eating place or in between the smaller assembly rooms in a motel. you could pre-order the menu so as that incredibly everyone gets a similar nutrients and you shop your expenditures down.
2016-11-11 11:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing goes exactly perfect. Just remember, your guests have probably already forgotten the details of your wedding. Its the food and music that they remember. As for you, focus on the things on that went well and the rest will fade with time.
2007-11-13 21:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With time you'll get over it. Life will hand you bigger challenges, and you'll gain some perspective.
I still have some regrets over my wedding, but good grief. I'm sure I'm the only one who remembers them, and I've now got much bigger fish to fry.
I don't mean to minimize your concern, but as someone who's been there, done that, I can assure you that you won't be agonizing over it ten years from now!
Good luck!
2007-11-13 20:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kris B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up and realize that things will always go wrong in life. Nothing is eve going to be perfect all of the time. Just let it go.
2007-11-13 20:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i hope you never get another chance well do the perfection thing with people you love and who are going to get married
2007-11-13 20:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by dust s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's simply a matter of maturity.
2007-11-13 22:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋